Quoting April Hayman:" First of all...I have to say you ARE an amazing person to want to help. I have a 7 year old who is Autistic ... [snip!] ... if it's small stuff they just want to be heard. Best of luck to your little nephew! It seems he has a wonderful start!!! )"
Thank you! I feel so much better just getting some feed back. I have an autistic cousin who's 9 (lives out of state though so never had much experience with him), he had early intervention starting at 17 months. He's doing so amazing, and his parents really give all the credit to the therapy so early.
I really hope that even though my nephew is a year behind that, that it's still early enough to help him. The therapy I think will be awesome because the tools his parents learn, they can share with us other caregivers so we can keep him on track when he's away from home.
He definitely throws fits like that too, if he gets somewhere unfamiliar, whoever he's with that he knows he just clings to and cries. Or if he wants something, he doesn't have the language to communicate what he wants-so he throws a massive fit. It's hard just to watch honestly :/ I feel so bad because the first 2 years of his life I lived with them, and we had such a bond. Things have changed with the pregnancy and I try to be close with him but he's very stand offish at times, I don't blame him, because now I'm not as familiar of a face as before.
Babysitting at this point really is next to impossible but it's been getting difficult for months, mostly because watching him isn't like any other kid. He gets angry and it's hard to calm him if he's thrashing, or pick him up because I'm afraid to get hurt or for him to get hurt too.
Thank you for the advice though, I really want to be there for them! And if they need to vent I'll definitely let them- I may not be in there place but I know just from living with them for so long that long periods of time with him can be difficult. As he gets older it's been worse, once again crossing my fingers the therapy can help!