Quoting Ashley 2 little miss Ava:" WTF WAHHHHHHHHHH THAT JUST PISSED me OFF!!!! personally i would be like take me to court if you have ... [snip!] ... custody and if you wanted to you dont even have to let him see the kid. Sorry for what your going through hope it gets better."
This is not true. My ex got custody of my daughter just because I did not have my own place and was staying with someone. I have no past, never done a drug in my life, rarely have a drink, no mental illness', etc and I have 2 other kids I take care of with no problems. It depends on the judge.
OP- I went through this exact thing. I represented myself. I also had no money for a lawyer and he did. I did NOT get primary custody tho. If I could have done it with a lawyer I would have hands down.