Jealousy with a new baby

My friend just had another baby and she also has a almost 2 year old. My friend started having post part. Depression due to the fact she no longer felt connected with her almost 2 year after having this new baby. The 2 year old wanted nothing to do with his mommy cuz of the new baby. He's jealous and wants to play with everything his lil brother uses and needs. She tries to get him to help with the baby by asking him to help her at times but she does more yelling at him cuz he's constantly playing with things he's not supposed to and acting out a bit what r some tips or suggestions that she could help her reconnect with the 2 year old and help him not to be so jealous? Thanks ladies

ummm i just let my son play with them however if its the swing or something i always tell him no he is to big and he is fine with that and walks away.

While the newborn is napping she should use that time to do something special with her toddler.. Let him pick the activity and show him the attn he still needs. Maybe another family member can come over and help her with the newborn so she can spend time with her son.