Out of control

My 4 year old is literally out of control. He doesn't listen atall! I'm constantly yelling.. No matter what I do (put him in time out, take things away, take privileges away, etc) nothing works! Nothing bothers him! I cant take it anymore.. I take him to a behavioral therapist every Monday now , this Monday will be the second time. Last Monday we spent the whole session trying to keep him in time out bc he wasnt behaving. Being in public or when other people r aroun that's when he's the worst! I can't take it anymore seriously! Anyone have any ideas what to do? I also don't want my daughter growing up with constant yelling -__-

I think he is being a four year old and a behavior therapist seems insane.

Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" I think he is being a four year old and a behavior therapist seems insane."

 

Have you tried sitting down and playing with him? It seems like he is looking for attention. Do you take time out of your day to sit down and play with him? Color? Go to the park and play? Go out side and play? He's 4....

What "bad" things is he doing?

No 4 year old is perfect and they are annoying and act out

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lil' Nugget.:</b>" I think he is being a four year old and a behavior therapist seems insane."</blockquote>



I don't think he's being a normal 4 year old though.. Some stuff yes but others no.. My SO has a little either that's 4 & he's very well behaved & listens & stuff .. I know every kid is different but still

An entire appointment of timeout? Yikes. I'd be finding a new behavioral therapist, if that's what you want to stick with anyways, that just doesn't sound effective. Maybe it's just me but I think if something isn't working you shouldn't keep doing it.

If you're on fb the page that I always recommend is Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond. There are quite a few links and people giving helpful tips.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Pregasarus♥:</b>"   Have you tried sitting down and playing with him? It seems like he is looking for attention. ... [snip!] ... you take time out of your day to sit down and play with him? Color? Go to the park and play? Go out side and play? He's 4...."</blockquote>


Yes .. I used to take him to the park all the time before I went back to school after having my daughter.. & now it's really humid out most of the time so we don't go as much & it's been raining alot.. & I try to sit him down to work on writing & reading letters but he doesn't focus .. After 1 min literally, he doesn't want to do it anymore

Quoting Brandi Coughlan:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lil' Nugget.:</b>" I think he is being a four year old and a ... [snip!] ... no.. My SO has a little either that's 4 & he's very well behaved & listens & stuff .. I know every kid is different but still"

Exactly every child is different.

Your child isn't reacting to the negative attention you are giving him like you want him to. Have you tried reacting in a positive way? Instead of yelling at him talk to him and say how about instead of doing this we go do this? Or instead of playing with this we go play with this?


Some children react better to positive reinforcement instead of negative. Yelling might not be beneficial in your particular situation. Time-outs probably wont either. Try positive reinforcement.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Regina Phalange:</b>" An entire appointment of timeout? Yikes. I'd be finding a new behavioral therapist, if that's what you ... [snip!] ... I always recommend is Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond. There are quite a few links and people giving helpful tips. "</blockquote>

I'll check it out, thanks

Quoting Brandi Coughlan:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pregasarus♥:</b>"   Have you tried sitting ... [snip!] ... him down to work on writing & reading letters but he doesn't focus .. After 1 min literally, he doesn't want to do it anymore"

So what is he doing wrong? You still haven't said what he is doing that is so bad

And all 4 year olds are a handful. They don't listen. They get frustrated. It's all part of the age

Quoting Brandi Coughlan:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pregasarus♥:</b>"   Have you tried sitting ... [snip!] ... him down to work on writing & reading letters but he doesn't focus .. After 1 min literally, he doesn't want to do it anymore"

Try

play dough
finger painting
whip cream play
building blocks
cutting and pasting

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" So what is he doing wrong? You still haven't said what he is doing that is so bad And all 4 year olds are a handful. They don't listen. They get frustrated. It's all part of the age "</blockquote>



Well this might not be necessarily 'bad' behavior but it's stuff he def knows he shouldn't be doing . Putting everything in his mouth, not listening when he's home or anywhere else, touching things e shouldn't be, talking back, being rude, stuff like that. I mean I know what your prob thinking, every 4 yr old does this... & I understand that too but I think maybe you would just have to be around him to understand maybe.. He's very defiant But if u ask him if what he just did us right or wrong he'll tell you

<blockquote><b>Quoting Pregasarus♥:</b>" Try play dough finger painting whip cream play building blocks cutting and pasting "</blockquote>




Thanks for the ideas

Quoting Brandi Coughlan:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" So what is he doing wrong? You still ... [snip!] ... to be around him to understand maybe.. He's very defiant But if u ask him if what he just did us right or wrong he'll tell you"

Sounds like my 2 year old. Kind of normal...

Quoting Brandi Coughlan:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" So what is he doing wrong? You still ... [snip!] ... to be around him to understand maybe.. He's very defiant But if u ask him if what he just did us right or wrong he'll tell you"

Then I would say that he is just testing his boundries.

I have a difficult 4 year old daughter. It's hard.
But I don't think it is worthy of seeing a behaviour therapist. She is just being 4.


And if your therapist spent the whole time putting him in timeout, then you need to get a different therapist.

And find ways to yes more often, instead of saying no all the time.