so ahead of myself, but still...

I'm probably paranoid, and jumping way to ahead of myself, but I reallt need to vent I suppose. I'm a single mom to a beautiful 11 month old. After three years of being apart, my first love and I met up and had sex. I realized I love him, and want to be with him.
Anyways, that's another post. Lol. I was on my most fertile day according to my app, which I'm using as birth control.
This was about a week ago, and I'm starting to feel exactly as I did when I was first pregnant with my daughter.
Weepy, slight cramps with a tiny bit of bleeding and soo tired.
I have sort of realized I love him but I'm just a booty call to him now, and I'm not ready to be a single mom to TWO.
I have told him id be getting an abortion, should I end up being pregnant.
I'm having mixed feelings, because for one I've always been against abortion because I've never had to be in this situation. For two, how could I keep one child but not the next?
Id be a horrbile person, I feel.
Yes I know I'm getting ahead of myself but I need to vent. Thanks ladies.

Does he agree w/ you? I think if you can't afford another one & would abort it but not abort your next one, it makes perfect sense to me. Stability is very important for raising a child. While it isn't necessary having a father figure, it helps a lot when there is a man who actually wants to be involved too.

<blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:</b>" Does he agree w/ you? I think if you can't afford another one & would abort it but not abort your ... [snip!] ... While it isn't necessary having a father figure, it helps a lot when there is a man who actually wants to be involved too."</blockquote>


I'm able to maintain us both perfectly, but it breaks my heart to hear her say dada and not know what that means.
I guess because I'm going to have to deal with the heartache of explaing to my daughter that her daddy doesn't want her...
I couldn't do it to another baby.
I don't knowwww.  

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:" Does he agree w/ you? I think if you can't afford another one & would abort it but not abort your ... [snip!] ... While it isn't necessary having a father figure, it helps a lot when there is a man who actually wants to be involved too."

This

Nothing about you aborting in any situation makes you a horrible person.
Abortion is you choice and your right. It's no easy decision, but don't feel like a bad person.
I'm gonna send you loads of anti-baby dust.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" Nothing about you aborting in any situation makes you a horrible person. Abortion is you choice and your ... [snip!] ... choice and your right. It's no easy decision, but don't feel like a bad person. I'm gonna send you loads of anti-baby dust.  "</blockquote>




I just feel guilty because I kept my first pregnancy, but why not another one? Money wise- noooo issue. I make way more then a lot of people a month but I just want a REAL family.
I'm so lonely and depressed being a single mom
Right now as I type, my cramps are getting worse so..hoping its aunt flo

I just realized this was in AS.


Sooooo lol, I begin with my initial response, if you knew you were fertile, I'm guessing you want this baby... especially if you are already wondering if you are.

Quoting Aliyah'sMommyBri  :" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" Nothing about you aborting in any ... [snip!] ... family. I'm so lonely and depressed being a single mom Right now as I type, my cramps are getting worse so..hoping its aunt flo"

You have time. Just wait a little longer and take a test. Or hell, even try a FR tomorrow.

And even still, doesn't make you a bad person.
If you decide being a single mom of two isn't for you right now, so be it. You need to think about what's best for you and your daughter right now. Guilt is no reason to keep a child.
You're a strong person for making this choice.

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:"   Wooooow. Must be nice to have never made a mistake and/or misjudge in character."

Oh no I DEFFFFF have.... I didn't realize where this was posted.... I said "I am not one to judge"... and I am not. But I do know that if you don't want a baby, then you don't have sex on your most fertile day. lol However someone makes their family is how they make it.... it all turns out good in the end.... unless you go insane.... that's the only possible negative outcome. lol

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:"   Wooooow. Must be nice to have never made a mistake and/or misjudge in character."

I can see what she means though...

Quoting Aliyah'sMommyBri  :" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" Nothing about you aborting in any ... [snip!] ... family. I'm so lonely and depressed being a single mom Right now as I type, my cramps are getting worse so..hoping its aunt flo"

it isn't just the financial aspect either, although that's great that you can   I guess it's all up to you!

Uh, no. No adoption talk here.


If you're not going to be supportive, gtfo.