vent!!!! ( long)

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for just about three years now. The beggaining of this year I found out that I was pregnant. In March we moved in together and at the beganning of this month I moved out. I've been through hell with this man. He has hit me and abused me. I'm the type of person that when i believe in someone so much i wont turn my back on them. but things just kept getting worse! He started talking to his ex-girlfriend. I would see the tex messages on his phone and ask him about her and he would lie to me. Then one day I was really sick from and had to be taken to the ER. I asked him if he would talk me and he was like that he was about to leave. So, I found a friend to take me and when i got there i ended up being worse then i thought I was. So, my friend tried to call him and see if he would come because they wouldn't let her go back with me. ( she has my 4 year old son with her) He was like that he would be there in like an hour and 30 mintues. Well he never showed up. For about an hour they had trouble finding the baby's heartbeat and i was so scared. For some reason i had this feeling that he was with her. So i tex the both of them. When i got home he still wasn't there. I waited for him to get hom and comforted him about it. He was like no i wasn't with her.The next while we were laying down together i get a tex from her telling me that he was there with her yesterday. I was so mad that I couldn't even say anything to him. I just walked up stairs and started crying. He came up and told me that it was a big mistake and that he only wanted me and the baby. Things just never got better. So i moved out and then made the choice to move away to TX. I so scared and all i want is to go back home. I want us to work things out and to build and strong realtionship for our son. He wont answer my calls. I don't know what to do!

  I am sorry hunny.

you did the right thing by moving away. He sounds like trouble. Stay where you are and try to work on yourself first.
Your baby is the most important thing to you right now and obviously he doesnt care about you or the baby because he has abused you in the past.

Men suck lol I moved away too!

Quoting Stephanie C:“ My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for just about three years now. The beggaining of this ... [snip!] ... want us to work things out and to build and strong realtionship for our son. He wont answer my calls. I don't know what to do!”

Sorry to hear that but you should leave. I beleive that if you want change in someone then you first have to change yourself. Not to say you have anything wrong with you but start acting like you CANdo this without him because YOU CAN. You nor your baby deserves this.

you are doing the right thing. It doesn't sound like he cares too much about you if you are in the emergency room and he won't come be with you & is instead with another girl!

People don't change unless they want to change. You can't change someone.

Sounds like you did the best thing possible for your baby. Don't go back, if he wants to change give him that opportunity LATER like after your baby is born, right now focus on you and this pregnancy! Good luck sweetie.

My little girl's father was abusive towards me. I don't know for a fact he ever cheated on me, but I always kinda wondered (and secretly hoped) he was or would. That seemed to be the only way I was going to be able to get away from him, if HE left. But, FINALLY, I left. My daughter was 5 months old at the time. I have raised her with absolutely no help from him, and she'll be three in August. I was a single mommy up until I met my fiance, but I was doing it. And you can too. You may not want to turn your back on him, but its not worth it. Believe me. I've been there. They'll never change. They just get worse. One of the worst beatings I got I was 8 1/2 months prego... you don't want to be there. You don't want to have to worry if your baby is going to be alright or if he/she will have something wrong with them when they're born. Raily was only five months old but to this day I know she remembers what her Mama went through... Any time anyone so much as lays a hand on me she screams. I can't wrestle with Landon without her thinking he's hurting me. Its sad, and it breaks my heart that she had to go through that. You don't want to do that to your baby or your son.

I know this is hard sweetie, my sister went thru the same thing and went back 3 times. She regrets going back the 1st time - with the exception of the fact she has 3 beautiful daughters from the terrible things she went thru with her ex. Best thing for you and your child is to be away from him. You will find over time that you become a much stronger woman and a much stronger mother for your child. I promise it will get better. You will get thru and you will be very happy and successful. All he will do is add more drama and stress in your life and you do not need to deal with that right now. I wish you luck!