Quoting felicia shelly:" so my now ex boyfriend has been overseas since feb he came home for 18 days when our son was 5 days old ... [snip!] ... he can take him were he wants but i have had his friends tell me that its wrong if i do that that i shouldnt do that to my kid"
No that is very understandable....to your child he is a stranger and kids need a routine. He also needs to be around him to learn his childs behaviour and how to deal with issues that might come. Stand firm bc you are your childs voice and his friends have no idea bc they are not ur child parent