Quoting lolarose:" I was bullied for 5 years, that is all through my secondary school, I would hardly compare that to falling ... [snip!] ... know what went on in my life,I shouldn't have made a thread like this. I shouldn't expect people on here to know what went on."
I just said it with the bike because my daughter told me how "miserable" she felt. She is only 4, but to her - it was a misery. Whatever happens in childhood it is always a big deal. That's why I brought it up, because you said that the mother is no good when children go through misery. Unfortunately, this is life. I absolutely agree that being bullied is a horrible thing and that it is unacceptable. But I also feel for your mother, she is only human too and has no super powers like mind reading. The only thing you could accuse her of is that you couldn't go to her with your problems, thats what I want for my child. That she comes to ME when something is happening. I am sure your mother would've done something if she knew about it when it happened, but again, what is she supposed to do now? Feel bad for the rest of her life that you didn't tell her? You are right, none of us here know your story or your mother, but you still say you can't talk to her about it now because it is so hurtful thats why you wrote here. Communication is the key in every relationship. And it has to come from both sides.
I really hope you can get over this, forgive your mom for whatever you think she did wrong here and I hope that you can read your childs mind when it comes that far. To me, the best prevention against bullying is to give your child the self-esteem and selfworth to not even get into the postion of a victim. I was bullied in school but I opened my mouth, and it was over as soon as I stood up for myself and didn't put myself in the position of being a possible victim for bullies.