re: getting an abortion because of being mentally ill?

I think it's something that you really need to think about. I mean we don't know the intensity of your illness, we don't know how you get so we cant really say one way or another.

Quoting SemiCharmed:" I think that you need to do what is best for you and the potential child. If you are in not in a place, ... [snip!] ... can look into long term forms of birth control such as the two forms of IUD or implanon rather than a tubal. Best of luck!"

I think I wrote this wrong... I was asking others on the situation. Right now I'm just wondering about permanent bc and the like. Anyhow, I have mirenaI'm only 18 I guess that's why like my mom's worried if I get pregnant in a bad situation that it leaves that possibility as it seems I have good poins and other points I've ended up in less than desireable situations.

Quoting SemiCharmed:" A current abortion has no bearing on future children. In other words, you can still have children later is you choose to abort now. How well managed is your schizophrenia? "

I'm doing better now... I think never seems my mom can seem to think that I am doing that well it seems I guess can't please her expectations.

Quoting Alexis18:" I think I wrote this wrong... I was asking others on the situation. Right now I'm just wondering ... [snip!] ... it leaves that possibility as it seems I have good poins and other points I've ended up in less than desireable situations. "

I get what you are saying now...

Do I think mental illness is a good reason to abort? I think that any reason that you feel is a good enough reason. No one should have a child that they do not wish to have or cannot take care of.

I wouldn't do anything permanent because you do not know where you will be mentally years from now. You have roughly 20 years left to have children, who knows how you will be then?

Do you like the Mirena? If so, keep it. If not, there are several long term options.

Quoting Alexis18:" I'm doing better now... I think never seems my mom can seem to think that I am doing that well it seems I guess can't please her expectations."

Honey, you don't have to live up to anyone's expectations. Parents can have such high standards. And she might not fully understand how your illness effects you.

How does your mental health team feel you are doing? Are you taking prescribed medications correctly? Are you functioning well on a day to day basis? I would base things on this and not just on how your mom thinks you are doing.

Quoting Alexis18:" I'm wonering is it a good idea to get an abortion if you have a severe-moderate form of schizophrenia? ... [snip!] ... But it's like in reality my mom says I shouldn't think of it really. If that's ok to you what about tubal litigation? Opinions?"

I would talk to a professional about your concerns. My aunt is schizophrenic among a few other mental illnesses. She has three grown daughters, one of which has 2 children of her own, and they have no issues. My aunt had her own ups and downs while the girls were growing up and she is now well medicated living a relatively normal life. I say relatively normal because she has been dealing with cancer for the past year or so. All I can say is good luck with your situation. Mental illness can definitely make life much more complicated.

Quoting SemiCharmed:" I get what you are saying now... Do I think mental illness is a good reason to abort? I think that any ... [snip!] ... who knows how you will be then? Do you like the Mirena? If so, keep it. If not, there are several long term options."

I guess idk if it was my reason for doing it really. I guess I trust my mom. Anyhow yeah I'm ok with it. It's I guess my mom who isn't so ok with it. But at the same time I'm also ok with the thought of having kids in the future so idk. I guess it's better than risk something I can't ever get back...

I think it depends on how severe ur illness is. I would get DR opinions and c if u could manage under the right meds. I worked at a state hospital with patients who had severe schizophrenia, had 1 lady who had it & she decided in her early 20's that she didn't want kids because of her illness so she got fixed. However, she always regretted that decision, she even kicked a prego worker in her stomache so hard that she lost her baby and said she did it on purpose because she was pissed she never had kids. So I would make sure it's def something u do or do not want to do! It's a major decision but i'm sure u could do it under the right care. Good Luck!

I see no problem with it. I was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and manic depression and PTSD but I am a good mother. Yeah there is that chance it can be passed because my grandmother and aunt both had/have it but they think mine may have been cause from childhood trauma. Either way I didn't find that a reason not to enjoy being a mother. And for the most part being a mommy has actually helped cure me. Like I still have really bad days but it is not as bad as it used to be when my mental illness was a daily thing that was running my life.

Quoting Alexis18:" I'm wonering is it a good idea to get an abortion if you have a severe-moderate form of schizophrenia? ... [snip!] ... But it's like in reality my mom says I shouldn't think of it really. If that's ok to you what about tubal litigation? Opinions?"

Speak with your dr about pros and cons. Medications and therapy that you can do.

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I believe it is a personal decision.

I dont know if this helpe, my best friends mom has schizophrenia and has had 7 children. they are all very sound minded, but idk if there are other things that played into this but she had to give her last-my best friend-up for adoption. he sees her, now that he is an adult. he understands that she has problems and would not have been able to raise him herself. i see her problems and wonder how she raised the first bunch.....maybe it was never as bad though.

from this experience i would say if you feel you are completely able to raise a child even with everything going on in your mind, i would go for it. But im no professional. I would seriosuly talk to a doctor about the state of your mind and if you are able to handle this, or if maybe it can be passed down? i know the chances are higher, but idk...all aarons brothers and sisters are fine.


Its a tough decision, i would get as much info on it as you can before making it final. do what feels right for you.

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Honestly? Don't.Don't get pregnant.

People will cry foul for this,but let's be honest.Do you want to put yourself through hell with a pregnancy and bring a child into the world that'll deal with the same crap,pills and symptoms you have had to shoulder your whole life?

It's not healthy for you,nor best for a potential child. Just because you CAN get pregnant and give birth,doesn't mean you SHOULD.There's no shame in that and there are other ways to involve children in your life.

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