Apologies to all you TTCers

I wrote a really rude and ignorant topic about stupid stuff like you guys being bitter and I'm really sorry. I'm not trying to make excuses for my actions but I am trying to let you all understand, that way I might have a better chance at redeeming myself. I was 8 months pregnant by a boy who broke my heart and left me to deal with it on my own. I was getting nasty stares everywhere I went, and I didn't even mean to get pregnant. I was hormonal, and depressed and I shouldn't have been talking about stuff I didn't know about. I know some of you will never forgive me, but I just feel like I should at least try to apologize, because I'm really not like that. I was raised to be repsectful and to not judge other people. I'm sorry and I hope that some of you can forgive me. I know I can't even fathom what some of you are going through.Oh yeah, I had my daughter and I think she has made me a better person all around, and I hope all of you get the babies you are longing for.

Sincerely Rachel... 

thats very honorable to apologize.
TTC women are very sweet so I hope whatever happens, they can forgive your actions

Quoting Watashi Wa Sessa Desu!:“ thats very honorable to apologize. TTC women are very sweet so I hope whatever happens, they can forgive your actions”

i agree with that. the TTC ladies are some of the sweetest on the forum!

You are a great person for apologizing! At least God forgives you, even if man won't, but I'm sure they all will understand. May God bless you and your daughter!

"thats very honorable to apologize.
TTC women are very sweet so I hope whatever happens, they can forgive your actions"

Thank you. I hope they can too. I never meant to be so horrible to them. I was being very ignorant and immature at the moment and I feel very badly about it. I thought about deleting my account and then making a new one, but I thought that would have been ver cowardly of me, and decided that I should apologize instead.

Quoting RachelRay_momma2be:“ "thats very honorable to apologize. TTC women are very sweet so I hope whatever happens, they can forgive ... [snip!] ... and then making a new one, but I thought that would have been ver cowardly of me, and decided that I should apologize instead.”

And that was a good decision! You would have been running away instead of facing the consequences you caused. Also to really understand how and where you were wrong is a wonderful thing because you are not proclaiming to be innocent but wanting to be apologetic no matter the outcome.

Well good for you! The TTC ladies are very sweet ladies, and don't deserve a whole lot of grief especially since a lot of them are also S&L as well. You're doing a good thing by apologizing and you sound sincere, hopefully they will forgive you. Idk what all was said, but hopefully nothing too horrible that you can't just put it all in the past.

Also, just FYI if you do make another account make sure no one would know you had already had one. Multiple accounts are against the TOS and are likely to get you IP banned if found out. Just saying in case you ever consider it in the future. But brava for being so brave to apologize!

I read your post when you posted in December, and while I can honestly say it was hurtful to me and many of the women on here, I understand where you're comming from as well. Thank you for appologizing.

I really do mean it, and I thank all of you who forgive me. I really do wish the best for all of you.

I feel like a lot of people judge others on here...and I do see A LOT of rude comments about teen moms. Sometimes I think things too...like gosh, how can this girl be on her 3rd baby and only be 17...but that is the path she has chosen for her life, and we all have free will and are able to do what we want with our lives even if others don't think it's right.

Some women who really really really want to have babies will NEVER be able to. Some women who really really really DON'T WANT a child will end up pregnant...but that is how the world works, and it's too bad some people choose to put others down because of their situations.

My friend was TTC and heavily involved with the foster care system...she had kids in and out of her house constantly from ages birth to 4 years old. In 3 years, she had been through over 30 children...SO SAD!!! The thing is, I can see why she was so upset that there are allllll these children who deserve to be loved and have a family that DON'T HAVE ONE because of choices made by the parents. The majority of these parents WERE NOT TEENS, but drug-addicts, alcoholics, and even women who chose an abusive man over their children!!!

I think an effort to be a good parent and give a child a decent life, no matter the situation in which they were conceived, is enough to drop any stereotype, get over the situation, and lift up any mommy in love and support, especially in a community like babygaga. I always try to be fair and see people for who they are, not what they've done.

I'd just like to see an end to bad-talking young moms...let's bad-talk the moms who don't give a shit instead.  

That is very sweet of you to publicly announce your mistake.

I was a TTC for many years until I got tired and gave up. I gave it toGod andwell, now I am expecting twin girls. lol Many TTC forget to have faith and to enjoy the process and tend to get sensitive.

I can say that many of us that truly struggle with infertility are more forgiving than those that just decide they want to get pregnant and it doesn't happen right away. Just keep in mind if a woman is taking fertility treatments chances are her hormones are raging just like yours and it will be understood.

Take care of you and that baby!!!

In all honesty, I didn't remember your post until I went back and read it. I think that is very nice that you offer up an apology. I wrote your first post off, but I will take your apology. As much as teen moms are talked about, TTC people are looked upon as these baby hungry sometimes crazy ladies, who are so bitter. When it's really not the case. As there are looks and stares for young mothers, there's also those dreaded question by strangers and family members of "When are you going to start a family", "do you have any children". There are always hard things in life and this area for us is a place of support and really the only place I feel anyone understand what I've been going threw and I am thankful for that. I believe the ladies who where in here at the time of your first post will also forgive you.

Quoting RachelRay_momma2be:“ I wrote a really rude and ignorant topic about stupid stuff like you guys being bitter and I'm really ... [snip!] ... has made me a better person all around, and I hope all of you get the babies you are longing for. Sincerely Rachel... ”

I am bitter but not towards the pregnant girls. I am jealous of them LOL

Wow I just skimmed through the originial post. I think it is awesome how you decided to apologize, it really shows character, its a very sincere apology too. Best of luck with you and the new baby.