Daddy Trouble...

I'm having some trouble with my husband...we had a baby a week ago and he doesn't even seem interested in his own son. He hasn't even held him today! Not even one glance to see how amazing the baby is...he walks by without even looking if the baby is crying. He leaves the house if the baby cries too long. He has barely been home since the birth...he's constantly making other plans to get out of the house...Will he ever come around? Our son needs to bond with him. What should I do?

my ex did this with my first... he will come around eventually.... has he ever been around newborns.. my babies daddy was so scared of him cuz he was so tiny but when he got a little bit older he came around.

Honestly, I thought this was borderline normal behavior for new dads...my dad didn't have hardly anything to do with my baby brother until he was almost a year old. He didn't wanna play with him feed him etc...my dad is also a lazy asshole but still. Have you just tried having the "serious conversation" with him? Or maybe it's just sensory overload from having a brand new baby? Idk but seriously i thought this was normal...

Give him time, especially as the baby becomes more expressive and an "active" participant of the family he'll gain alot more interest!

He will come around. A lot of dads dont get really involved or excited until they do more then just eat and sleep. Once crawling or walking starts they are usually all over it.

I'm not sure how my husband will do, he seems excited now, but everything he's interested in doing with the baby are things he'll have to wait until he's a couple of years old to do, and he's never been around a new born before so I'm not sure what he's going to do. I"m sure they'll come around

My husband was the same way. He eventually came around.

Welcoming a baby into the house is a little different for the man. You carried him for 9 months and during those months, you have bonded in a way that he hasn't. Just give it time. He will come around.

LOL I don't mean to laugh but, men do this not just because of bonding but many are afraid they are going to "break" the baby. They are afraid that they will hurt them and that fear is stronger than the urge to pick up the baby. Give him time. When you least expect it you will see your hubby go pick up the baby and be talking to it when he thinks you aren't looking. There is a sense of "Macho" that goes with men as well so gooing and gaaing is not really first nature.

DON'T pressure him. Just go about your routine and share details in small doses. He will come around.

Good luck and congrats on the new baby!

Quoting no longer empty arms:“ LOL I don't mean to laugh but, men do this not just because of bonding but many are afraid they are going ... [snip!] ... Just go about your routine and share details in small doses. He will come around. Good luck and congrats on the new baby!”

Excellent advice! My husband was the same way. Now he races to pick Cassie up from daycare!

Some men just never fall into the excited dad role and others just take time to get there. You have to prepare yourself for both. It might not be till baby gets older. Some men are even afraid of being around their babies, thinking they might hurt them..... And some just can't handle the sounds and smells of babies.... Sometimes I think men are bigger babies than their children...lol