should i be worried?

hi im 25 weeks today   im really worried about what will happen and i think i just need some reassurance or guidance if its ever happend to you.

i was with my ex 3 months and i found out i was pregnant. 6 years ago i got told i could never have children as i had severe pcos. Abortion never ran through my mind as this could be my only chance.

my ex has bi polar, adhd and autism and has to see a support worker and phychologist.
His not a very nice man, he headbutted me when he was drunk ( i wasnt pregnant at this point) he said he done it as a joke. when i was 3-4 weeks pregnant he grabbed me and was pushing me about, and shouting in my face. he then told his support worker that he done this so she has it on record.

i split up from him when i had to go to an emergency scan as i was bleeding when i was 6 weeks pregnant, i said to him its time to go and he said that he couldnt be bothered to come, i left on my own and went to the scan, i came back to tell him how it all went and he wasnt in, i rang him and he told me he was at his friends. this was the day i left him.

ever since then i was getting death threats, me and my new boyfriend was getting then through facebook, he came to my boyfriends house and waited outside for us until we came out, i saw him walking up and down outside the house so we stayed in until he left.
when i was 15 weeks he told my friend that if i was going to have a girl he would kick her head in and throw her out of a window, i have two witnesses to him saying this, a week later i went for a sexing scan and found out i was expecting a baby girl. when i found this out it all started again, he then started to threaten and then his mum joined in, saying im going to be an unfit mother and there is no way that he would let her grandchild live with my and my boyfriend. Then they started to make up lies saying i told them that my new boyfriend used to hit me and that he ran me over, this is a complete lie !!

after all that has happened i decided to call the police, i have a domestic abuse order out on him and he is not allowed near me or my new boyfriend for 6 months. his mum also had a warning for stirring the smurf as they say.

my midwife has also put a safeguarding order out on my ex. he keeps saying that he is going to get full custody and if not full custody he will see his daughter. i really dont want him to, i dont want him to have any contact, why should he? he hasnt supported me financially, ive had to do this on my own, my new boyfriend has supported me andbought everything, has come to scans and all my appointments.

im really scared that he will get contact, for my daughters saftey i really think he shouldnt. he also has a police background of assult on numerous occasions, he is not mentally stable to get a job, how can he be stable to see a child, he sleeps all the time, he is forgetfull and lazy. i will not be putting him on the birth certificate so if he wants parental rights he has to go to court, will he get custody? im so worried its making me ill. thankyou

After reading all that i dont believe for a second he will get custody but he may get supervised visits

Quoting CU Next Tuesday:" After reading all that i dont believe for a second he will get custody but he may get supervised visits"

i hope he doesnt, my little girl doesnt deserve him in her life, she deff wont be calling him daddy, i dont htink its fair on a child to hae to go to a contact centre for supervisary, after what he has done he doesnt deserve anything

Quoting CU Next Tuesday:" After reading all that i dont believe for a second he will get custody but he may get supervised visits"

This!!
Because he has a history I doubt he will even get custody.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Emma marie Watson:</b>" i hope he doesnt, my little girl doesnt deserve him in her life, she deff wont be calling him daddy, ... [snip!] ... htink its fair on a child to hae to go to a contact centre for supervisary, after what he has done he doesnt deserve anything"</blockquote>




Yeah i agree. But at the end of the day he is her father but just keep making it hard for him. Breastfeed for as long as you possibly can just to give u that extra edge of him not getting her. But i wouldnt worry. No judge would give him custody, full or otherwise

Quoting CU Next Tuesday:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Emma marie Watson:</b>" i hope he doesnt, my little girl doesnt ... [snip!] ... just to give u that extra edge of him not getting her. But i wouldnt worry. No judge would give him custody, full or otherwise"

i will be breastfeeding, breast is best   i just hope he doesnt go to the courts, i hope i wont hear nothing of him, if u relli cared for ur child ud do anything for them before there here. he hsnt botherd, he doesnt no what im calling her, he doesnt no how many weeks i am, last time i heard he thought i was nearly due !! waste of space