Quoting Alfies Mama:" Thank you! I hope it turns out good. I think our relationship needs this kind of shock to bring it back. ... [snip!] ... days then i have in a year. He felt neglected and so did I. I'm just hoping this turns out positive and we don't get divorced."
Counseling opend our eyes to what each other is going thru. It was amazing what we learned about each other. You kinda get lost when kids come in the picture. We were on different levels and it was hard to get back on the same one. My husband was sturggling to fit into "family man" role. He felt our lives shouldn't change just because we had kids. He was always doing what he wanted when he wanted and didn't really think about the twins or myself. I was all about family everything and stopped doing things for myself. We have gone thru counseling two times. The second time was more of a "refresher" for our marriage but mostly for me. I went thru some scary stuff last summer with a ton of surgeries and such. I kinda got lost and paranoid about everything because I nearly lost my life.
At anyrate, it is a great tool and a valuable asset to utalize to save your marriage. Good Luck!