re: DEAD BEAT DAD SIGNED UP FOR MILITARYYY. i have a ?

Quoting perfectgtangel:“ If you get a paternity test done and take it to the recruiter they will automatically deduct child support from his check”

Recruiters usually have no furthur action with them once they are signed up. You would need to notify his chain of command and they will order him to go to finance and set up a allotment to come directly out of his pay check.

okay now i KNOW i have to either have him take a DNA test OR he has to be on the birth certificate and i know that the military will take it right out of his paycheck but what i REALLY wanted to know was DOES HE HAVE TO TELL THE MILITARY THAT HE HAS 2 KIDS? he knows my son is HIS & i have emails to prove that he said jacob is his so if he doesnt tell the military he has 2 sons could he get into trouble?

Quoting ♥My_2_PriNcEsSeS:“ Over here the father either has to be on the birth certificate or have a dna to pay child support unless he does it willingly!”

Oh I know he'll have to have a paternity test but, I'm simply saying the birth certificate is not the end of the line. Not sure how it was meant originally but, wanted to clarify that as someone else may have interpretted it the same as me.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ Recruiters usually have no furthur action with them once they are signed up. You would need to notify ... [snip!] ... his chain of command and they will order him to go to finance and set up a allotment to come directly out of his pay check.”

okay so if i went to the recruiters office and told them my situation and everything and he told me to go to the chain of command (wahtever that is.lol) and i did.would he have to take a DNA test right there and then?

Quoting Hes My Gift From God  :“ okay now i KNOW i have to either have him take a DNA test OR he has to be on the birth certificate and ... [snip!] ... i have emails to prove that he said jacob is his so if he doesnt tell the military he has 2 sons could he get into trouble?”

Hmmm, I'm not sure about that one. I can see him getting in trouble later on down the road if he doesn't tell them and they find out. But I'm not positive.

Quoting Hes My Gift From God  :“ okay now i KNOW i have to either have him take a DNA test OR he has to be on the birth certificate and ... [snip!] ... i have emails to prove that he said jacob is his so if he doesnt tell the military he has 2 sons could he get into trouble?”

no why would he get in trouble unless he has an order to pay child support to the other kid...

Quoting Hes My Gift From God  :“ okay now i KNOW i have to either have him take a DNA test OR he has to be on the birth certificate and ... [snip!] ... i have emails to prove that he said jacob is his so if he doesnt tell the military he has 2 sons could he get into trouble?”

I'm not 100% sure but, do you know where he's stationed? I could get you contact info for his command if you know where he is. That way you can call and find out, for sure, what you need to do to get the ball rolling. The other thing you can do is just call the recruiter and ask them what needs to be done. You can make it annonymous and not give them your/his info and just get a generalized response, so it doesn't even get back to him.

Quoting Hes My Gift From God  :“ okay so if i went to the recruiters office and told them my situation and everything and he told me ... [snip!] ... told me to go to the chain of command (wahtever that is.lol) and i did.would he have to take a DNA test right there and then?”

Quick question. Has he even gone to boot yet? Because the military has no real power over him until he is graduated from boot.

Quoting Mommy2Malykai:“ I'm not 100% sure but, do you know where he's stationed? I could get you contact info for his command ... [snip!] ... can make it annonymous and not give them your/his info and just get a generalized response, so it doesn't even get back to him.”

i was thinking about doing this just nowww.hmmmm.
he isnt stationed yet. he hasnt even left. he just signed up so he is still in the paper work stage. i thiknk im going to ask one of my friends in the military about this and see if he knows or can find out becayse i an very curious.
i want this pricess sped up but i dont want him getting in trouble. because he needs the militray

Quoting Hes My Gift From God  :“ okay so if i went to the recruiters office and told them my situation and everything and he told me ... [snip!] ... told me to go to the chain of command (wahtever that is.lol) and i did.would he have to take a DNA test right there and then?”

The chain of command will order one asap. You can find out his chain of command (which is what unit he works in and what base) sometimes from the recruiter because they know the career field but if not possibly red cross. If you get no help call the base operator and ask for the IG (thats the inspector General) they can find him and get the process started but it will be up to you to keep on him.

Doesnt matter what he "says" or writes that will be considered hearsay to the military. You need the DNA test which they will require now that he is signed up anyways. You child will also be elligable for base priveldges and/or medical insurance until he gets out.

Quoting ☆Crystal☆:“ no why would he get in trouble unless he has an order to pay child support to the other kid...”

he doesnt have an order to pay for NEITHER of his kids YET BUT the other baby mama is going down to the recruiters to sign papers--idkkkk what kind of papers. though.

Quoting Hes My Gift From God  :“ okayyy so my babys "dad" signed up for the military (marines) I have already filed for child support. ... [snip!] ... if at all? Does he HAVE to tell the military that he has 2 kids? & if he doesnt what happens? please help! THANKS”

Does anyone know of the laws for VA about child support?!

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ The chain of command will order one asap. You can find out his chain of command (which is what unit ... [snip!] ... that he is signed up anyways. You child will also be elligable for base priveldges and/or medical insurance until he gets out.”

okay this was helpful.
now do you know how i could get all of these nukbers?
or should i start out by just calling the recruiters office tomorrow?

Quoting usmcbaby!*32days*:“ Hmmm, I'm not sure about that one. I can see him getting in trouble later on down the road if he doesn't tell them and they find out. But I'm not positive.”

No he wont. I'v seen it first hand. Unless a court or legal document was signed the military brushes it off as hearsay. He wont even be able to get them in the system without a statement from the court saying the kid is his and they usually require a actual birth certificate for military dependents.If its not done prior to the military then it must be done through the court or a lawyer and no back punishments will be applied.

Quoting usmcbaby!*32days*:“ Quick question. Has he even gone to boot yet? Because the military has no real power over him until he is graduated from boot.”

Very true. He is not "truely" military until BMT graduation and the first set of orders. Until then its the waiting game basically.