I wish my dad wasn't an ass

I haven't spoken to him in 2 years because he's an smurf. We've had issues going back to when I was a kid but I finally cut him out over how he treated my daughter and his racism towards my then-boyfriend and homophobia towards my lesbian sister. Anyway my sister and I generally decline attending family events on his side of the family because he makes things awkward, and it pisses me off. I live a short bus ride away from his eldest sister, who is hosting my cousin's birthday party...but I won't be attending because he and his bitchy wife will be there  

/endrant

I know how you feel I avoid mine as much as I can too. Sorry  

I'm sorry. My dad is pretty racist/homophobic too... I just told him, as long as we don't talk about that stuff, we're fine, but as soon as you start pulling out the "n***** this, smurf that" I'm out.

I would say smurf that...

its your cousin too! Can't you just go and not talk to him?

Luckily for me, my smurf of a father lives ages away from me and and his family not only live far away from me but have no interest in knowing me whatsoever.

Now if only his other daughter, his darling precious daughter didn't live just down the street and tell me all the time about how much her dad loves her and gives he money and calls her all the time ... Wanna punch that bitch right in the face.

<blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" I would say smurf that... its your cousin too! Can't you just go and not talk to him?"</blockquote>



No. he makes it a point to either talk to me directly, or make snippy comments about me to everyone else. It's not worth the drama then or how upset I and my daughter will be after.

I get that! I don't talk to my step-family at all anymore because my step-father is a smurfface and I actually like some of them. I don't really think of them as step-family because they've been in my life since I was two but that doesn't seemingly go both ways.

Quoting Máthair Gruaig Gorm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" I would say smurf that... its your cousin ... [snip!] ... or make snippy comments about me to everyone else. It's not worth the drama then or how upset I and my daughter will be after."

Wow...what a douche nugget.

My dad's wife is a douche nugget too.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama to William + 1:</b>" I get that! I don't talk to my step-family at all anymore because my step-father is a smurfface and I ... [snip!] ... really think of them as step-family because they've been in my life since I was two but that doesn't seemingly go both ways."</blockquote>



Yeah he's been my dad since I was 5 and adopted me when I was 8, but it's pretty clear he doesn't consider me his daughter or my child his grandkid.

Quoting Máthair Gruaig Gorm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama to William + 1:</b>" I get that! I don't talk to my step-family ... [snip!] ... since I was 5 and adopted me when I was 8, but it's pretty clear he doesn't consider me his daughter or my child his grandkid."

I'm sorry girl...

Thats bullsmurf. When did he marry his wife?

My grandmother raised me until 1999 (she passed away.) I then lived with my parents, this included my psycho dad. I ended up living in an abusive house, got yanked from school when they started asking questions, was locked up in the house not allowed to go anyway. But that's my sob story. In 2004 my world fell apart when my mother passed away. But the silver lining was that Christmas I moved away. Dad drove me out, dropped me off, New Years 2005 he was gone. I never said a single word to him or saw him again until middle of 2010 when I went home for the first time. He hadn't changed much yet had in other ways besides nasty personality and all. Married to someone else, a lady who was once part of the long list of aunts to one of my cousins, a woman who told my mother she hoped she died so she could get to my dad. Nice, huh. He lives somewhere else, has custody of a mentally disabled/deaf/mute little girl, ect. But he's still very much the same. I saw him like five times during 2010. Other than that we have no communication and haven't since. They found out I was pregnant so have "reached out" a bit, well he's hassled my brother and she wrote me a FB message, but yeah. Last people I want in my life, thank you.

My entire family is pretty awful though. Psycho religious fanatics. Anti everything, biased, all of it. Oh and they all just hate me and are basically saying I need to be stoned for being with a divorced man, living in sin, getting pregnant outside of a marriage, my lack of faith, ect.

Good times.

I'm sorry you've had to go through such an awful thing though. Just be happy your life is so much better without such a person around.