Okay, this may sound a little bad but..

I really need advice. My boyfriend and I were at my house earlier and he left his fb signed into my laptop. His message button at the top said he had a few unread, so me being curious decided to check who they were from. Okay, this sounds bad I know.
But there was a message from him ex there. That kind of freaked me out. Not because of the fact that it was his ex, but because it was his crazy ex who tried to break us up for 2 months before giving up.
So again, wrong I know, I opened the message.
Now a few days ago he told me she had called him asking for advice because she was depressed and lonely. I was a little nervous about them talking, but I was glad he told me and was okay with everything.
So, I opened this message and I see that he messaged her, asking her to call him. She said ok, but she no longer had his number, so he gave it to her, saying 'please just call me'

Now. Maybe he was upset and needed someone to talk to. Okay whatever. They haven't talked in months, so why now ? And regardless of them talking.. I guess I'm more upset that he lied to me to my face about her calling him asking him for help..
I don't want to tell him I was going through his facebook.. because yeah it was a smurffy thing to do. And there is no real way to justify it. But at the same time, I want to confront him about lying to me...

Should I keep this one to myself.. or say something.. ?

I would tell him how you found out, and apologize, and then ask why he lied.

I would probably keep it to myself, but if it happens again, confront him. He may have originally sent the message, because maybe she had a really depressing status or something?

Wow you really can't say anything cause you went looking for trouble. Why did you go on his page without his permission????

Quoting True Diva:" Wow you really can't say anything cause you went looking for trouble. Why did you go on his page without his permission????"

I explained that. I opened my laptop to find he was already signed in to fb. I clicked on him messages, which was bad I know. But I said that above.

I would personally just throw it all out on the table. I'd say that I was nosy and went through his smurf and admit I knew it was wrong of me but also call him out on his lie. Neither of you were in the right, but that doesn't make either thing ok by any means.

curiosity killed the cat
I would be upset if my bf checked my messages because he was "curious" I would let it go. It was none of your business. What if he checked yours ?
Two wrongs don't make a right imo

I've done it. He left it signed on and I saw he had a message. I read it. I told him I did, and said I was wrong and I was sorry. Granted nothing he said was bad or a lie. I was just being nosy. All it was he told a friend of his to come to his moms to see him and the 2 younger kids, while the oldest and I was out of state. I got mad and told him I didn't like it. I had never met this girl and he was telling her to come see our kids while I was in a different state. But he said sorry and she didnt come. So I'd say just be honest. Tell him you know it was wrong and your sorry, but ask him why he lied.

I would tell him the truth and then ask him why he lied. Something similar has happened to me and my DH and we talked about it. It's going to eat at you if you keep it in. It's better to just be honest instead of keeping a lie locked up.

See, I could never been in a relationship with out the other person being okay with everything out and the opened. Its just so much easier to be faithful that way and no one has doupts!

I'd bring it up only because even though you went about it the wrong way you deserve an answer to a point. But more than anything it'll eat at you if you don't clear the air.

I always say don't dig for dirt if you don't want to get dirty.

I'd be pissed if SO was calling his ex though. Dumb stripper. lol.

You should be pissed off. Plus if u have a gut feeling to go threw something its probably needed

I think you should definitely tell him the entire story. If you don't it's going to eat at you everyday and all you will be doing is not trusting anything he's telling you now...

Unfortunately, I think it will get worse on you if you don't tell him everything.

You should just tell him. He left it signed in which isn't an invitation for you to look at it but I think I'd rather have my SO read my facebook rather than message her ex to call her, you didn't do anything that's that big of a deal in my opinion but some people take the whole privacy thing seriously far.