Is anyone else finding it hard to shake the judgment off

Hello, I'm Darian and I'm new here! I was quite excited when I saw 'Teen parenting' on here. I'm 16 and 6 and 1/2 months pregnant with my son Bently. I've gotten quite used to being judged pretty much every where I go because of my situation. I don't regret my son what so ever and would never take him back for anything. I've been with his father for two and half years and he's the only one I've ever been with but people still feel that they can call me a whore because I got pregnant. Also stupid, but I'm graduating a semester early and I've already taken college courses, all on my own. Though that may not sound completely outstanding, it has taken me a lot of hard work. I've made a lot of sacrafices for my son and I plan on making many many many more. I am being responsible for my actions in every way but I'm still stepped on and treated like dirt by the people around me because I'm a teenager. I love my son and would do anything for him. I'm finishing school, going straight into college right after and getting a job. His father has already graduated, is in the army reserves, has a job (getting a much better one very soon) and supports me and his son with everything that we need. I am not dirt, trash, a whore or stupid. I try to shake it off every time everyone makes a dirty comment and I always put it behind me because what others think isn't important at all but sometimes I wish I wasn't stereotyped because of the age I got pregnant. I know that no matter what I say or do I will always be judged, and I'm not crying or whining, but it does any other teen mom feel this way too?

No. I pretty much ignored it. Now i'm older and look back and realize I was a smurfing moron and most of the things people said were right.

I think everyone who is unfairly judged sometimes has a hard time shaking it off. Just focus on your family. You know you're doing your best and it sounds like your SO is doing his best also. Focus on that instead of others negative comments. Good luck.

Just keep your chin up. If you know you're doing right by your son and family, that's all that matters.

Keep yourself surrounded by people that love you and support you.

well im not a teen mom i am 22 and have two kids and i get looks all the time and the snotty remarks but i know that im approaching my 5th year of marriage i take care of my kids the best i can without help from others and even older moms/grandmas commend me on how well i handle myself with my two crazies so screw them live for your own happiness and people will see

Teen pregnancy has become a common occurrence where I live, so people don't really bat an eye when a teenage mother walks by. That being said, no one should make you feel like nothing. There are teenagers who get pregnant and don't step up to the plate in any way. The fathers pretend like it didn't happen and the mothers stick their kids with their parents so they can continue being a teenager. Kudos to you for being an example, and for showing that just because you're a teen mom, you're not an air-headed individual who still acts like they only have to live for themselves. Screw the people who put you down, I don't even know you and I'm proud of you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Máthair Gruaig Gorm:</b>" No. I pretty much ignored it. Now i'm older and look back and realize I was a smurfing moron and most of the things people said were right."</blockquote>




This!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bently'sMommy♥:</b>" Hello, I'm Darian and I'm new here! I was quite excited when I saw 'Teen parenting' on here. I'm 16 and ... [snip!] ... what I say or do I will always be judged, and I'm not crying or whining, but it does any other teen mom feel this way too?"</blockquote>



If your doing what your suppise to screw what others say. I'm called a horrid mother because my age. But I'm not. I care for my son in everyway I can. So if your doing your job right then what othwr peopke say is wrong!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bently'sMommy♥:</b>" Hello, I'm Darian and I'm new here! I was quite excited when I saw 'Teen parenting' on here. I'm 16 and ... [snip!] ... what I say or do I will always be judged, and I'm not crying or whining, but it does any other teen mom feel this way too?"</blockquote>



If your doing what your suppise to screw what others say. I'm called a horrid mother because my age. But I'm not. I care for my son in everyway I can. So if your doing your job right then what othwr peopke say is wrong!

I got pregnant at seventeen and no one I knew (besides my parents, of course) treated me any differently. I can imagine how frustrating it can be when people are telling you things that you don't want to hear, but that just comes with the territory of getting pregnant at such a young age. You aren't a whore and you're doing the best you can for your son. That's what matters the most. Let the people who doubt you be your motivation to keep on going. Good luck and congratulations!

I was 16 when i got pregnant with my daughter, My daughter is 2 months old & im now 17. I know what it like to be critizied for haveing a baby young. Its really hard for me to shake it off when people have something negitive to say. But it sparks this feeling inside of me that want to prove them wrong soooo bad! & I have im an amazing mother to my daughter. & Her daddy is an amazing daddy that supports his daughter & I 100%. Just use that feeling as a boost to get your smurf done. Be the best mommy & girlfriend you can be! People are always gonna have something to say. Just screw em'!

please don't spell your son's name bently. it looks and is mispelled. sure you CAN spell it how you want but it makes you look illiterate.

spell it bentley.

I got pregnant at 17, I am now 21 and my DD is 2 1/2.
People will always have the judgement placed on you, all you do is ignore it and be the best mother you can

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Sara:</b>" please don't spell your son's name bently. it looks and is mispelled. sure you CAN spell it how you want but it makes you look illiterate. spell it bentley."</blockquote>




Uh I do not look illiterate because I spell my sons name differently. If Sara was spelt with an h, would that mean whoever spelt it that way is illiterate? Or Hanna without the h at the end? No, I didn't think so.

Quoting Bently'sMommy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Sara:</b>" please don't spell your son's name bently. it looks ... [snip!] ... with an h, would that mean whoever spelt it that way is illiterate? Or Hanna without the h at the end? No, I didn't think so."

Spelt is a type of European wheat.