I'm not attracted to him anymore.

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I'm sorry. I feel the same way at times, and I don't know what to do about it. When did you start feeling this way?

Sadly I feel the same.

Quoting Keyboard Warrior.:" Ugh. I seriously dread having sex with DH. We don't really anymore, maybe once or twice a week and I ... [snip!] ... try not to let him notice, but ugh, it's so uncomfortable. I feel bad, but I don't even know what to do about it.   "

I started feeling this way about my husband after giving birth to the twins. We litterally had sex 6 times in a year resulting in a miscarriage and my son. My son is now 2 years old and I still hate the idea of having sex with him. I love him. Just don't want to have sex. We might have sex once or twice a month in a good run.

Part of my distaste for sex has been my health and meds. The other part is is whining and begging for it. Makes it feel like a chore when all they talk about is sex.

Quoting Squeaky McGee:" I'm sorry. I feel the same way at times, and I don't know what to do about it. When did you start feeling this way?"

It's been like this for a long time.   Since before I got pregnant with our new baby (she's 4 months). We were TTC but I didn't enjoy sex then, either. I just did it because I wanted a baby so badly. I just really have no clue what to do. It's very uncomfortable for me and I know it would hurt him if I actually told him that.

Im in the same boat. I cried the other day during sex. I really didnt want to have it but gave in because I felt bad. 1/2 way through I couldnt take it anymore and started crying. I felt like I was loosing me. It lead to a big argument. I dont know how to fix things. I NEVER want to have sex, he ALWAYS does. He's always grabbing up on me... drives me crazy!! His idea of spending time is sex and then going downstairs to watch tv or go on the computer. I completely understand where your at, I just dont know how to fix it...

Since you've already tried talking to him about it, and he didn't listen, you might have to look into going to a counselor. Although, I will say this....my hubby is not the adventurous type either. I've talked to him MANY times about doing different things. He's always willing to try stuff, but I have to initiate it. I've just had to accept that it's the way he is wired and if I want a little change-up, I have to bring it myself. Also, when I feel tired/uncomfortable/blah I cringe away from his kisses too.

Quoting Keyboard Warrior.:" It's been like this for a long time.   Since before I got pregnant with our new baby (she's 4 months). ... [snip!] ... just really have no clue what to do. It's very uncomfortable for me and I know it would hurt him if I actually told him that. "

I'm the same way. I don't enjoy sex or kissing. It's been that way for a long time. I have a hormonal imbalance that needs correcting. I think that's part of the issue. That might be something you could discuss with your doctor.

Quoting Not tellin:" I started feeling this way about my husband after giving birth to the twins. We litterally had sex ... [snip!] ... health and meds. The other part is is whining and begging for it. Makes it feel like a chore when all they talk about is sex."

Seriously, I feel the exact same. He like, makes comments to me that are just so unattractive. "Tonight I'm sleeping in your bed, get me some of that.." (Yes, we sleep in separate rooms) or he'll grab my butt and say some rude smurf. I don't mind humor and all, but I also don't want to be talked to like I'm some random woman to him. He is NEVER romantic about it.

I've been with my husband for 10 years. There are days where I feel like get out of my face, I don't want a kiss. He'll grab my ass or boob or something and I'll just roll my eyes. I don't want it most of the time. It also doesn't help that he's strictly vanilla...

I just think with me, I am just so tired from day to day life with work and the kids and such, I don't even care.

Quoting Squeaky McGee:" I'm the same way. I don't enjoy sex or kissing. It's been that way for a long time. I have a hormonal ... [snip!] ... imbalance that needs correcting. I think that's part of the issue. That might be something you could discuss with your doctor."

I think I will, I never considered that may be part of the problem. Thanks. It really feels better knowing I'm not alone in this. I feel like a complete bitch for it sometimes.  

Quoting GrumpyMa:" Im in the same boat. I cried the other day during sex. I really didnt want to have it but gave in because ... [snip!] ... going downstairs to watch tv or go on the computer. I completely understand where your at, I just dont know how to fix it..."

I've noticed that when my hubby doesn't spend time focusing on me (on computer/phone/gaming) that I really don't care to have him touch me. I think that as women we need the 'foreplay' of attention or one-on-one time alone with our hubbys before we can get into the turned on stage. The hardest years of our marriage have been since we became parents. We alternate taking care of our son and the other one vegges out or runs errands. It give us personal alone time, but no together alone time. :-(

You guys have to do things to spice it up. It sounds like your sex life is in the dumps and you just need to get it back on track.
If youre not into him thats a BIG problem considering hes your husband.

I honestly think you should tell him how you feel, In a nice way of course. In a not so blunt way.
If hes not aware theres a problem, smurf will NEVER change.
GL girl.

I was like that for like six months....we would fight and he would want to have sex...um no not really in the mood after you bitched at me...that and fatigue from school/ work...and the constant whining about it...big turn off....after we almost broke up and I has a glimpse of my life without him our relationship renewed and we had sex every day until I got huge pregnant  .

Quoting CakeBakin'Mama:" I've noticed that when my hubby doesn't spend time focusing on me (on computer/phone/gaming) that I really ... [snip!] ... care of our son and the other one vegges out or runs errands. It give us personal alone time, but no together alone time. :-("

I completely understand. ;) My hubby is all about cooking and doing dishes and loves foreplay (which I hate). Im just not into anything sexual. I just want him to spend time on me where I dont feel like theres always an underlying agenda. yaknow!? I feel like a sex doll or a trophy wife all the time, not a real person. I put alot of effort into how I look too, and I feel like he doesnt anymore....