re: I'm not attracted to him anymore.

You're not a bitch for feeling this way at all. Would the two of you be open to seeing a marriage couselor or a sex therapist? A marriage takes work you know? Sometimes these hurdles come up and you just have to figure out how to get over them together, but it has to be a team effort. He needs to know how you feel about his behavior and attitude towards sex, as well as how he makes you feel when he says the derogatory things that he says to you.

I feel the same way about my SO. I'm not sure why, because I do love him. But sex to me feels more like a chore. I go to bed with my daughter so he won't bother me  . Sadly the only time I'm really into it is when I have a few martini's. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.

ew, back out of my brain, yo.

I feel the exxxxact same way.

I wont do anything for M .. He asks for a BJ, and i say no. He tries to initiate sex, and i walk away.. We have sex, and ...i'm like. UGH.
I have told him it's boring, i'm bored, i don't have a sex drive. We have tried to switch things up, do different things.. He does them, and it's a smurf ton better when he does, but i'm awkward. I don't like to voice my likes or dislikes, so i just take it as it is i guess..

I don't really even love him like that.. It's more of a friends with kids type situation here, without dating others.

I'm feeling the same thing, and I am shocked (but it makes me feel better) to see that almost everyone who replied to this either feels this way or has felt this way. Idk, I think a huge part of it is that Moms typically have so much responsibility and never get time to breathe. I feel like most days I am so tired and haven't even had a second to sit down on the couch yet without a toddler foot on my face or 50 chores that need to get done that when as soon as I sit down and SO tries to initiate sex it just pisses me off and I have no interest. I love him, A LOT, but just have no interest in sex  .

<blockquote><b>Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:</b>" I'm feeling the same thing, and I am shocked (but it makes me feel better) to see that almost everyone ... [snip!] ... SO tries to initiate sex it just pisses me off and I have no interest. I love him, A LOT, but just have no interest in sex  ."</blockquote>




Seriously! One baby takes ALOT of energy...I have no idea how my aunt does it she has 6 kids ages 11, 9, 7, 5, 3, 1.....0_0.... and she's homeschooling....my guess is 0 sex haha

Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:</b>" I'm feeling the same thing, and ... [snip!] ... no idea how my aunt does it she has 6 kids ages 11, 9, 7, 5, 3, 1.....0_0.... and she's homeschooling....my guess is 0 sex haha"

She's obviously getting her sex on with having six kids... LOL

Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" She's obviously getting her sex on with having six kids... LOL"

I have a set of twins. From June 2008 to October 2009 hubby and I had sex litterally 6 times. In those six times I got pregnant twice. lol A m/c and my son. You don't have to do it alot, just the right time.

Quoting Not tellin:" I have a set of twins. From June 2008 to October 2009 hubby and I had sex litterally 6 times. In those ... [snip!] ... 6 times. In those six times I got pregnant twice. lol A m/c and my son. You don't have to do it alot, just the right time."

Yes, I know. It was just a joke.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" She's obviously getting her sex on with having six kids... LOL"</blockquote>




True true......haha....the last one was concieved after a vasectomy 0_0. Maybe its the complete opposite of my guess haha. Those people are seriously fertile

Your not alone.

If Could just be roommates with DH and never have him touch me again I would   the thought of his touch just makes my skin crawl. I just can't do it 

Quoting Not tellin:" I started feeling this way about my husband after giving birth to the twins. We litterally had sex ... [snip!] ... health and meds. The other part is is whining and begging for it. Makes it feel like a chore when all they talk about is sex."

yeeesss!!! ive told SO this too....it doesnt change though

Quoting Keyboard Warrior.:" Seriously, I feel the exact same. He like, makes comments to me that are just so unattractive. "Tonight ... [snip!] ... mind humor and all, but I also don't want to be talked to like I'm some random woman to him. He is NEVER romantic about it."

same with me too...i hate when he hardly talksto me but will just grope me...he slaps my ass in front of his family all the time. i hate it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ReesieLove...:</b>" Your not alone. If Could just be roommates with DH and never have him touch me again I would   the thought of his touch just makes my skin crawl. I just can't do it "</blockquote>


Why even stay together then? That doesn't sound happy   you deserve someone you want and he deserves someone who wants him

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ReesieLove...:</b>" Your not alone. If Could just be roommates ... [snip!] ... Why even stay together then? That doesn't sound happy   you deserve someone you want and he deserves someone who wants him"</blockquote>




At first I thought it would change with counseling and us trying to work on things but it hasn't helped. We have just started the process of separating now..

<blockquote><b>Quoting ReesieLove...:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ReesieLove...:</b>" ... [snip!] ... with counseling and us trying to work on things but it hasn't helped. We have just started the process of separating now.."</blockquote>


That must be hard to go through.. but there is a man for you out there! I don't believe in the whole stay together for the kids thing....everyone deserves to be happy..and when the parents are happy so is baby