First time moms

This will be my first child and it was an unexpected pregnancy, I sometimes feel like I regret becoming pregnant and that I don't want a kid right now and other times I'm kind of excited. I just feel so stressed about this because I feel like everyone is judging me and that I'm "one of those young mothers" I'm 21 will be 22 when baby is here but I just feel like a lot of my family is disappointed in me since they were all young parents as well and wanted me to wait to have the best life I could. And I also feel like now that I'm going to have a baby I won't be able to do anything like no more hanging out with friends (not like I really did anyway) or going out places and that finishing school will be like impossible. Does anyone else feel this way or felt this way?

it's only impossible if you tell yourself it is

You can still have friends, go out, and finish schooling. It's just a bit more challenging

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" it's only impossible if you tell yourself it is You can still have friends, go out, and finish schooling. It's just a bit more challenging"

Thank you, I only feel like it will be because it seems like a lot of people who are already established and had kids later think that finishing school with kids is impossible. They're so judgmental I hate it

well you chose to have sex and you got pregnant. being a mom isnt that bad and at least you are in your twenties. you can still go out with friends but know that you have a baby at home to take care of.

Quoting My Widdle:" Thank you, I only feel like it will be because it seems like a lot of people who are already established ... [snip!] ... are already established and had kids later think that finishing school with kids is impossible. They're so judgmental I hate it"

Don't listen to them. I mean, I won't lie, it's hard as hell. I get to go out once every couple months with my friends and I haven't tried to go to school since she was born. But It can be done

I turned twenty a day before I had my son. Im going into my sophmore year of college, its possible.

I feel you. I have my ups and downs. I will be 25 when my child gets here and every female that came before me had a child by 18, if not way earlier, so I understand the expectations bit. In fact, when I told my mother, her first response was "I knew you'd @#$@ up your life when you married that man." Not congrats or anything, so I kind of had to take it upon myself to "get happy" about it at first. I still have days where I just want to collapse because I wanted to go to medical school, I like the unpredictable job I'll have to quit when I'm a new mom, my husband and I were getting to a very comfortable spot and now we'll have to sort of start back at one. So these back and forth feelings are normal!! But I also hear the hormones work wonders (or totally screw you, so be on the lookout if you are sad and stay that way!) and I think you really can have whatever kind of life you want to have! But it will take some orchestrating unlike before when you could afford to be more spontaneous. Cheer up, message me any time if you are frustrated. I talk myself up and down (yes, sometimes needing a dose of reality does happen!), I could do it for two! (:

You're not too young, don't worry what your family has to say.
Anything concievable is achievable, you can still finish school, still have friends and still have a wonderful life with a child. I turned 21 about a month after I had DD and luckily I don't have many people say things about my age. Though even if I did it wouldn't bother me because I don't care what people think. Annnd neither should you.

I'm 22 and will be 23 when baby is born and my family feels the same way I'm excited but so nervous I won't be able to give her everything she needs.I'm trying figure out how I'm going to be able to finish school as well looks like we r in the same boat.

Quoting 3 Pumpkins:" well you chose to have sex and you got pregnant.

I really hate when people say that. It's almost like saying "be celibate or be ready to have a baby!" Sometimes it's an adjustment. I didn't want children at all, have been married 5 years. A change in birth control and an increased sex drive later, and here I am on baby gaga. I agree that people should be responsible but that doesn't mean just because you are having sex you are entirely prepared for what could happen. Currently we're talking about feelings, not considering whether or not she'll actually perform motherly duties or not!!

I'm 28 an having my first child and I still go through the ups and downs. No matter what age, the first kid is scary if it's unplanned! Don't worry, you can still have friends and go to school, it just takes some planning.  

Quoting 3 Pumpkins:" well you chose to have sex and you got pregnant. being a mom isnt that bad and at least you are in your ... [snip!] ... and at least you are in your twenties. you can still go out with friends but know that you have a baby at home to take care of."

I was on the pill when I got pregnant, but still I knew that it was possible so that's not an excuse. I really was never like the go out all the time and party type and it's not like I really have many friends to do that with anyway. I plan on spending all my time with my child, I just feel like if I wanted to go do something i'll never be able to.

Hell, I got pregnant at 19 and had DD at 20. lol But no, going to school isnt impossible and I felt the same way. My pregnancy was totally unexpected and at first, I was freaking because I didnt even have a job to support her and my boyfriend had just lost his apartment. As long as you have a good support system, you can still go to school. :]

Quoting My Widdle:" This will be my first child and it was an unexpected pregnancy, I sometimes feel like I regret becoming ... [snip!] ... or going out places and that finishing school will be like impossible. Does anyone else feel this way or felt this way? "

First of all.
Believe in yourself !
Just because you are having a baby doesn't mean you life is ending. It is only getting better, believe me! This baby will do one of two thing. Put a fire under your ass to finish school and continue your success- or -give you a million excuses as you why you can't do those things.

I found myself unexpectedly pregnant at 14. I finished high school, and currently in my final year of College.
During this time I have faced plenty struggles, ranging from an abusive relationship, LO hospitalizations, brain operations, a miscarriage ect.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

Sweetie, I'm 22. Being a young mom is a GOOD thing   you'll get to finish growing up with your child. Best thing I can tell you is be strong and definitely don't stress out! As your baby grows it becomes so real and your child needs you to be a strong momma! It's depending on you. You can have all that stuff! You just have to balance mommy time with baby time. Good luck & congrats!! Just know baby loves you and is counting on you!!