ugh so frustrating

So a couple of weeks ago, my daughter and I busted our buts to get her room clean and organized. I tell her EVERYDAY, when she is done with a toy it needs to go back where it is suppose to be. I go in today and it's a wreck, she gets so lazy and does not put things back where they are suppose to be and then she gets mad when she can't find something. I am really upset and cried because I am sick and tired of a clean house and her room being the only one that is messy. I just don't know what to do with her.

Quoting Amanda Contento:" So a couple of weeks ago, my daughter and I busted our buts to get her room clean and organized. I tell ... [snip!] ... I am sick and tired of a clean house and her room being the only one that is messy. I just don't know what to do with her. "

My daughter is 7 going on 8 in September.

Is it really that big of a deal?  

she is a kid it will be ok

Take all the toys away. Tell her that because she can't put them away, she's losing them for a week.

If it were me honestly Id just let it be.

my DD is 4 and I never have that issue. Even when her brother destroys the room (he is 14 months) she cleans it up. She knows if it is a mess then she isn't going to get to do something she is looking forward to like going to grandma's.

Quoting Amanda Contento:" My daughter is 7 going on 8 in September."

I let my kid trash her room. It's the only room I let her utterly demolish with toys in the whole house. Her room looks like a tornado just plowed through it, and my kiddo loves it.

shut the door to her room and let it be. it will be a cold day in hell before I clean my kids rooms, esp at that age.

My mom always told me as long as the mess does not make it out of my rom then she didn't care kids are kids if it bugs you that bad maybe do a point system to where she gets some kinda reward for picking up the toys making the bed etc.

Well my husband is a clean freak and hates coming home and seeing her just lounging around and a messy room. She used to be great at keeping it clean. I let it be messy to a point but she needs to know that if she doesn't want to clean a million toys up because it takes too long then she needs to put the toy away as soon as she is done. I have tried taking things away from her. I make her have no t.v. for the day, no Ipad, and no toys but it's summer what the heck is she going to do.

Instead of getting worked up make a chore chart, give her rewards for getting her room clean before bedtime. Putting a toy back right after playing with it is just beyond the priorities of a child. If her bedroom is clean before its time to get ready for bed- thats a realistic goal for a kid, IMO. And at the end of the week, take her out and do something fun, or buy her some nail polish- whatever her currency happens to be. That way, if she won't do it- she doesn't get the reward and you can casually shrug your shoulders and be like "Don't blame me, blame your empty chore chart"

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" my DD is 4 and I never have that issue. Even when her brother destroys the room (he is 14 months) she ... [snip!] ... it up. She knows if it is a mess then she isn't going to get to do something she is looking forward to like going to grandma's."

My kids are 3 and 6 and they have the same rules. My kids understand that when they take care of their toys they get to enjoy them longer and get to do fun things, but if they don't take care of thier things they won't have them to play with any longer.

Quoting Kristy Chiono:" My kids are 3 and 6 and they have the same rules. My kids understand that when they take care of their ... [snip!] ... them longer and get to do fun things, but if they don't take care of thier things they won't have them to play with any longer."

yep. DD has lost a lot of toys that way, but I give her the chance to "earn" them back by being good when I have to go to the store or helping me clean the rest of the house or helping with her brother.

Quoting Kristy Chiono:" My kids are 3 and 6 and they have the same rules. My kids understand that when they take care of their ... [snip!] ... them longer and get to do fun things, but if they don't take care of thier things they won't have them to play with any longer."

My DD is finally getting that she can't destroy her toys. Age 2 was the worst, all her toys looked like they were ready for the trash within a week- so frustrating for me. Now she is starting to value things and they are lasting much longer lol