Quoting pilot Jess:" Tell them you are so grateful for their help, but you don't want their efforts to be wasted since you ... [snip!] ... instead of doing something so bold as asking for food store gift cards, tell them what would not go to waste in your house."
I could make a list, but we have such a restrictive diet that its tough, plus that feels rude to me too- it shouldn't be their job to shop for us.
they have been giving us money, so its not a stretch to ask for a card if they specifically want to give us food, I guess.
i just feel smurffy and ashamed about the whole thing. they are in a good place financially, but i still hate it.