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I was a teen mom....

posted 29th Jul '12
Hi everyone. I myself was a teen mom. I got pregnant with my first child at 14 and gave birth to him at 15....then got pregnant with my daughter at 16 and gave birth to her a month before i turned 17...i also had another baby girl at 19. It was harrrrd work being a teen mom, but I did. My kids are now 9,8 and 5. If any of you would just like someone to talk to or ask questions feel free to reply.
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I'm due November 24th (a boy) & live in Lakeland, Florida
posted 29th Jul '12
Ifnever had a misscarriage, my child would have been 9 too.  
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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Edmonton, Alberta
posted 29th Jul '12
aww i'm very sorry to hear that. You're child is in heaven looking down on you smiling.
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I'm due November 24th (a boy) & live in Lakeland, Florida
posted 29th Jul '12
Quoting Shalanda Epps:" Hi everyone. I myself was a teen mom. I got pregnant with my first child at 14 and gave birth to him ... [snip!] ... but I did. My kids are now 9,8 and 5. If any of you would just like someone to talk to or ask questions feel free to reply."

1) Did you choose to conceive?

2)How did you afford to take care of them being so young?

3) Did you have to drop out of school?
If yes, did you get a GED? Did you go on to college?

4) What do you consider the hardest struggle having three children under the age of 21?

5) Did you have any support from the father? Is the father still in the children's life? If not, was it a struggle to find another guy your age to date while you were raising three kids so young?

6) How long did it take to get out of your parents house and on your own? Do you still live with your parents? How did they take the news after the first one? Did they ever talked to you about prevention?
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I have 1 child & live in South Carolina
posted 29th Jul '12
Daaaaang you had/have your hands full! But welcome to BG!
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I live in Texas
posted 29th Jul '12
Do people still judge you cause you were young when you had your kids??

I still get judge, and I was actually 18 when my oldest was born. But I look super young at almost 29 now (wow I feel old) lol Oolder people make comments when I am out and about with my 10 yr old 4 yr old and almost 6 month old. lol.

Recently a lady said to her friend loudly so I could hear that my kids were suffering cause I was a teen with 3 kids, then stated they must have different fathers. Her friends like ya what is she like 16...
I thought it was very entertaining considering I am 28 and my oldest is 10...apparently I was 6 and gave birth to my oldest lol
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I have 3 kids & live in Ontario
posted 29th Jul '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" 1) Did you choose to conceive? 2)How did you afford to take care of them being so young? 3) Did you ... [snip!] ... you still live with your parents? How did they take the news after the first one? Did they ever talked to you about prevention?"

1.) I didn't want a baby that early but i also didn't take the proper precautions to prevent a pregnancy from happening either.


2.) I had a loooooot of help. My mother was always there and so was one of my older sisters. If it wasn't for them helping me I don't know where my kids or I would be. However as soon as I turned 16 I got a job and took care of my kids with the little bit of money i was making.

3.) No I stayed in school. I refused to let me being a teen mom get in the way of finishing school. I'll be starting online classes in the fall.

4.) I think my hardest struggle was having to grow up faster than I wanted to but I wouldn't trade being their mom for anything in this world.

5.) My oldest childs father was there part time during my pregnancy. one minute he was there and the next he wasn't. He is currently on child support and owes me over $18,000. my 2 girls father was always there for our first daughter and he was there for our 2nd daughter up until she was 6 months old then he went from worlds greatest dad to a deadbeat. He is also on child support but he hasn't payed since 2009. It's not hard for me to find another guy to date having 3 children it's just dating isn't what i'm focusing on at the moment.

6.) I didn't get on my own until after the birth of my 5 year old daughter. It was hard but I made it happen. Even though I was 16 when I got pregnant with my 2nd child she didn't take the news of the pregnancy as bad. I don't really recall her giving me the "prevention talk" however my 2 older sister did but like most teens, in my mind I would always say yeah right that's not ever going to happen to me....well it did.
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I'm due November 24th (a boy) & live in Lakeland, Florida
posted 29th Jul '12
Quoting Suckafish:" Daaaaang you had/have your hands full! But welcome to BG!"


lol yes i do lol. Thank you!!
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I'm due November 24th (a boy) & live in Lakeland, Florida
posted 29th Jul '12
Quoting Coupon Lady:" Do people still judge you cause you were young when you had your kids?? I still get judge, and I was ... [snip!] ... I thought it was very entertaining considering I am 28 and my oldest is 10...apparently I was 6 and gave birth to my oldest lol"
Sometimes and I use to care about what others thought,but now I could careless because I'M the one raising them not those who are judging me. Lol people are just silly these days.
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I'm due November 24th (a boy) & live in Lakeland, Florida
posted 29th Jul '12
I got pregnant with my oldest when I was 16 and he'll be 11 in October.   They don't stay babies forever that's for sure!!
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I'm due January 15th, have 2 kids & 3 angel babies & live in Kentucky
posted 29th Jul '12
Quoting Mrs.K.:" I got pregnant with my oldest when I was 16 and he'll be 11 in October.   They don't stay babies forever that's for sure!!"

lol sure don't but i love when they get older...that's when they "think" they are independent and can do things on their own.
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I'm due November 24th (a boy) & live in Lakeland, Florida
posted 29th Jul '12
Wow! You sure had your hands full, but it seems that you've done everything you could for your kids and to better your life as well as thiers! I couldn't imagine, i was 19 when i gave birth to my oldest, and now i'm 23 and pregnant again, and i wonder how i will handle two!! Thanks for sharing, and welcome to BG!
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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in New York
posted 29th Jul '12
Quoting Diam0nd InThe Dust:" Wow! You sure had your hands full, but it seems that you've done everything you could for your kids and ... [snip!] ... to my oldest, and now i'm 23 and pregnant again, and i wonder how i will handle two!! Thanks for sharing, and welcome to BG!"
Thank you. Trust me you will manage.
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I'm due November 24th (a boy) & live in Lakeland, Florida
posted 30th Jul '12
Quoting Shalanda Epps:" 1.) I didn't want a baby that early but i also didn't take the proper precautions to prevent a pregnancy ... [snip!] ... sister did but like most teens, in my mind I would always say yeah right that's not ever going to happen to me....well it did."

I'm glad you are honest about not using prevention. I know some wouldn't admit to having unprotected sex.

And I'm so sorry to hear about your children's fathers. But congrats on making it and working hard to support yourself and your children.
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I live in Ohio
posted 30th Jul '12
I have a 3 year old and I had her 2 weeks before turning 17 then I recently had my 2 who is now 15 months old he was born 2 weeks before turning 19 now I am pregnant again only 20 and due in September it's so hard being judged from being so young with so many kids but I just wanna say i give my props to u for doing it..I myself kno how hard it is with so many   at so young but it's definitely worth every minute of it
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I'm due August 8th (a boy), have 3 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Lansing, Michigan
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