This is NOT okay right? HELP

Middle of the night may not be best time to post this, but it's NOT okay for my boss to call and curse me out at work for ten minutes and leave me in tears right?

I work at Subway and the owners have cameras that they watch us on and then call us if we're not doing smurf right etc (Which is fine. I get that.) The owners are husband and wife and usually the wife deals with the employees. Honestly she calls about something like twice a night, seven nights a week, so it's typical but she's also "nice" about it. Just says what we need to do and that's that.

Well tonight the husband called and I picked up the phone and first thing he says is, "I've been watching you and honestly I'm getting smurfing pissed." Now two second before that I WAS on my phone and sent my friend a text message, but that was the ONLY time I had used my phone that night and it was like two seconds, but still I understand I shouldn't be on my phone at work, so yeah I get why he called. I understand that. But he just started ripping me a new one, on the store phone, in the middle of a store full of customers. Cussing at me and bitching about everything he doesn't like that the employees do, but blaming ME for it. I told him I haven't worked in two days and I haven't done any of the things he's complaining about and he just kept yelling and cussing at me. After like five straight minutes of this I finally told him I don't have to listen to him swear at me. He told me he "wasn't swearing" and that "pissed and bullsmurf" are not swear words. After that he tried to back track and tell me that I'm a good employee and he likes me and I do good work etc. I told him I understand why he called and he tried to say "Thanks bye" and I just hung up.

I got off the phone in tears. Honestly, I completely understand why he called and I hear from Barb (the wife) like three times a week for smurf she wants us to different which is fine, but he can't call and talk to me like that right? I had a right to stand up for myself right?

I feel SO uncomfortable now and I don't want to see him at work. I will feel completely uncomfortable. I think I'm going to put in two weeks notice.

Thoughts on this?

DISCLAIMER: I know I should not have been on my phone and I'm not trying to say I'm not responsible for that. I'm asking if it's okay for him to speak to me that way regardless of the reason. I know I shouldn't have been on my phone and that's not what this post is about. I assume responsibility for that. But he could've called and said, "You need to get off your phone."

Nobody ever has a right to speak to you like that. Whether it is in the work place or your personal life.

No way can he talk to you like that. Yes you shouldnt have been on your phone but he should have called and said please dont use your phone in work hours, he didnt have to be an smurf about it. I would have walked out and stuck my finger up at the cameras

It's definitely not ok and what a place to work at when they are calling every second about something to complain.

Quoting 3M'smom:" Nobody ever has a right to speak to you like that. Whether it is in the work place or your personal life. "

That's what I'm saying. I mean this guy is like 6 foot smurfing 5". Not that "height" matters, but an adult man should not be calling and intimidating a woman that way. That's NOT appropriate. I honestly got off the phone crying.

And I know this is not "his problem", but I have a history of sexual abuse and a man talking to me that way is VERY difficult for me to deal with it. It took all I had not to leave the building and walk out. I'm NOT okay with that.

I'm just....uncomfortable now.

Quoting CU Next Tuesday:" No way can he talk to you like that. Yes you shouldnt have been on your phone but he should have called ... [snip!] ... phone in work hours, he didnt have to be an smurf about it. I would have walked out and stuck my finger up at the cameras"

I almost smurfing did, but we had two hours worth of work to do and I wasn't going to leave Nikki alone in the store.

Quoting 3M'smom:" Nobody ever has a right to speak to you like that. Whether it is in the work place or your personal life. "

   

Quoting кïnga:" It's definitely not ok and what a place to work at when they are calling every second about something to complain."

Yeah it's ridiculous. I understand having cameras and checking them like if you suspect theft etc, but just to watch us for smurfing HOURS at a time telling us we "moved the tables wrong" or we need to do x, y and z differently. That's crazy.

They have it set up to where they can watch us from their cell phones....

I would check the state laws about being monitored on close circut TV off premisis. that really doesn't seem right or legal. I'd be looking for other employment ASAP. I'd also be calling corporate and making a formal complaint. even it it's a franchise, I'm sure they have protocol for their owners.

I know it's ridiculous to feel so bad for someone you don't even know, but I feel so bad for you. An employer should not make you feel so low especially on your first offence. Plus, calling you and cursing you is completely unprofessional  

as a boss myself, this is NOT okay. never should you ever talk to anyone like that. in a world of cell phones, it is to be expected for employees to be on their phones for a few minutes. i feel if a person is 90 percent productive, which sounds like you are, pick your battles. its one thing if the person is one the phone all shift, and ignoring duties and customers, but just a quick text? let it go. its no differnt than a smoker taking a break. that being said, jobs are hard to come by. do you think you could find another? unforchantly a lot of bosses are like this. doesnt make it right. stand up for youself, and let him know if he wants to talk to you, it has to be like a person, your not a door mat. idk how i feel about cameras being on you. i think if there are cameras, the point should be saftey, and overall customer service, not to bitch at your employees every second for every little mistake. no one is perfect, and we all waste a few min here and there at work, mostly bc we r not robots! im sorry you had a bad night, dont make any rash decions. take a night to relax, and talk to him when youve calm down. or write a note. does he have a boss? id forward it to his boss too, if he has one. hope you feel better hunny!!

Quoting Devil Duckie:" I would check the state laws about being monitored on close circut TV off premisis. that really doesn't ... [snip!] ... be calling corporate and making a formal complaint. even it it's a franchise, I'm sure they have protocol for their owners. "

I'm thinking of making some sort of complaint. That may not even be legal right? Like treating an employee that way may even be illegal right?

Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head™:" Yeah it's ridiculous. I understand having cameras and checking them like if you suspect theft etc, ... [snip!] ... we need to do x, y and z differently. That's crazy. They have it set up to where they can watch us from their cell phones...."

is that even legal?
its not ok for him to talk to you that way.
I'd def feel uncomfortable working in that type environment. Being watched 24/7 its just a little creepy IMO

ETA: I understand having a camera to make sure things aren't being stolen and ect. but to just watch you constantly... weird

Not at all, I feel really sorry for you. I know what it's like having to work somewhere you are completely uncomfortable with. I would not stand for it!
& Another thing, does he just sit on his ass and watch you guys work? Like from a different location?!

He definitely does not have the right to talk to you like that. Whether you were on your phone or not. If he was mad that you were on your phone at work he should have came out you in a professional manner/ reprimanded you if he deemed necessary but he should not curse or yell at you.