Good News, After Some Pretty Crappy News

So on may 8th, I Went to the hospital in pain, and bleeding. i found out i was 8 weeks 5 days pregnant. It was the worst day we had in a very long time. I went to my doctors yesterday afternoon. And she let me know, that everything is fine, and that we can start trying to concieve right away if we would like to. I don't know if I want to, I wouldn't be able to take the hurt again. But Dh really wants to start trying again, he said the sooner we start the easier it will be to get pregnant again. We have been TTC for two years at the end of this month. And I heard that it is easier to get pregnant right after a M/C Is this correct, or am i losing my mind ? Has anyone TTC right after a M/C, if so how soon ?
Thank You

I've never heard that it is easier, but we waited until my cycle returned to normal and got pregnant the next month. However, my husband looks at me and I get pregnant, so it's always been pretty easy for us.

Quoting Sgt. Villar's Wifey:“ I've never heard that it is easier, but we waited until my cycle returned to normal and got pregnant ... [snip!] ... and got pregnant the next month. However, my husband looks at me and I get pregnant, so it's always been pretty easy for us.”

Haha, I Wish it was that easy for us. I think i want to try again, but i dont know if i could take losing another baby

awh!. im sorry to hear that.. hopefully things will turn around for the good!.. good luck mama. and baby dust to you <3

Yes, you are typically more fertile after a miscarriage but it sounds as if you may not be emotionally ready yet. Since you feel that you may not quite be ready yet it may be best to wait a little while and let yourself heal. Either way I wish you the best of luck and lots of baby dust whenever you make the decision to go ahead.

Quoting name is:[mommy]♥:“ awh!. im sorry to hear that.. hopefully things will turn around for the good!.. good luck mama. and baby dust to you <3”

Thank You

Quoting ♥::Shay::♥:“ Haha, I Wish it was that easy for us. I think i want to try again, but i dont know if i could take losing another baby”

I stayed super paranoid this whole time. I'm still paranoid, but it's a lot better since he's moving around all the time. I always tell my husband that I have to check on Lex, and I drink or eat something really sweet and wait for him to make sure he jumps all over the place!

Quoting brodyzmom:“ Yes, you are typically more fertile after a miscarriage but it sounds as if you may not be emotionally ... [snip!] ... and let yourself heal. Either way I wish you the best of luck and lots of baby dust whenever you make the decision to go ahead.”

Thank you, i think i do want to wait. but seeing Dh so excited, and wanting it so much. it makes me feel like i want it now too. but then i think about the loss. and i get really down, but then again, thinking of trying and getting to hold my baby..makes me want to ttc right away..im confused

Quoting Sgt. Villar's Wifey:“ I stayed super paranoid this whole time. I'm still paranoid, but it's a lot better since he's moving ... [snip!] ... I have to check on Lex, and I drink or eat something really sweet and wait for him to make sure he jumps all over the place!”

Awww, thats something that i want soo bad.. i think i will be really paraniod as well, i love this site. you girls help me feel so much better

As far as being emotionally ready goes, you are always going to have that fear. It will always be there and it's totally normal. You have to ask yourself if you are ready to take the chance to become a mother, for the first, second, third, whatever time. Are you ready to move on with your family? Are you ready to go on with the possibility that it may happen again? My answer was definately yes. Like I said, the fear and paranoia will be there, you just have to know you are strong enough to over come it.

Quoting Sgt. Villar's Wifey:“ As far as being emotionally ready goes, you are always going to have that fear. It will always be there ... [snip!] ... definately yes. Like I said, the fear and paranoia will be there, you just have to know you are strong enough to over come it.”

Wow, thank you, you have no idea how much that helped

It must be scary to want to start trying again so soon. I definitely will keep you in my prayers.. I think right now you need to allow yourself to hurt and then heal. Don't let people tell you that you should just get over it and move on. We are here for you if you need to talk or vent or cry. And we will be here rejoicing when you come back and say that you are pregnant again and that everything is fine. We will cry with you in both circumstances. Tears of pain then tears of joy. (I am crying right now for your pain and I am looking forward to crying tears of joy with you in the future)
GOOD LUCK hun.

Quoting LOOPY4971:“ It must be scary to want to start trying again so soon. I definitely will keep you in my prayers.. ... [snip!] ... (I am crying right now for your pain and I am looking forward to crying tears of joy with you in the future) GOOD LUCK hun.”

Thank you so much
You girls are the greatest on this site

Quoting ♥::Shay::♥:“ Wow, thank you, you have no idea how much that helped”

Well I'm glad! You know, honestly, I don't think you ever "get over it". There's always a reminder for me. A friend of mine got pregnant the same time I did, and she's due anyday now. It kind of hurts to know I could be holding my baby boy/girl, my husband's son/daughter, my daughter's brother/sister, any day now too. But then Lex usually starts doing his fetus gymnastics and I'm reminded that I wouldn't have him right now if it wasn't for my loss. That's a thought I can't bear even more. It in no way replaces the fact that I lost a child, however, I guess it's a double edged sword.I didn't make it to this point with the one I lost, so Ididn't feel as connected as I do with my son. I guess I just feel like he is more real to me.I don't even know if that makes sense! LOL! Ok, I'll stop rambling.

Quoting ♥::Shay::♥:“ So on may 8th, I Went to the hospital in pain, and bleeding. i found out i was 8 weeks 5 days pregnant. ... [snip!] ... right after a M/C Is this correct, or am i losing my mind ? Has anyone TTC right after a M/C, if so how soon ? Thank You”

I am sorry for your loss. I am too in the same boat. I lost our angel almost 3 weeks ago and want so desperately to get preganant again. Me and DH are on different pages. He wants me to wait the recommended 3 months and I dont want to wait. I know my body needs a rest but I know my mind doesnt and I feel great physically. I have 3 others to chase around, if I can handle that I can handle anything LOL