How to trust again?

I was recently looking through my bf's text messages and i found a picture of his cock that he sent to a girl he works with. And i mean girl she just turned 17 and he is 22 turning 23 in sept. Im so crushed about the whole situation especially since im 37 weeks pregnant and not anywhere near as cute as i used to be. Well we talked about it and we are trying to work it out but im not sure if I can learn to trust him again. I was wondering if anyone had an infedelity(sp?) inthere relationship and gotten past it? If so how? What did you do to make it work? or when did you realize you just couldn't forgive and end it?

At least you know where to start cutting!

I dont think I could cope with that... good luck.

ditch him.

I'm sorry, I have no advice to offer, but seriously - who does that?

And what kind of girl WANTS to receive that kind of picture?!

I'd be disgusted if someone sent me a picture of that ugly thing!

Quoting kristinabakken:“ I was recently looking through my bf's text messages and i found a picture of his cock that he sent to ... [snip!] ... and gotten past it? If so how? What did you do to make it work? or when did you realize you just couldn't forgive and end it?”

I've never had to deal with a pedophile OR my husband screwing around on me behind my back while pregnant but if I HAD I absolutely would not stand for that shit and move on.. That was a pretty immature thing of him to do - sounds like an asshole who isn't ready for commitment.. I'd lose him like a.. well, something I lose alot.. Like left socks

I know if that we're me I would get rid of him. It will never be the same.I mean if I was ever with a guy who cheated or did shit like that and I stayed with him i would never be faithful, I wouldn't look for it but if an opportunity arrised I wouldn't think twice because I know that he never did. BUT that's not a healthy realationship.

Thats not how it works!!!!


You dont learn to trust him again. He has to proove to you that he is trustworthy. You dont have anything to work on, he does.

I admire you for trying to make it work with him, but honestly maybe you should just take some time off and let him realize that he needs to get his act together! If he can flash his dick around while your pregnant, imagine how it will be after you have the baby!...Guys like that just piss me off...><

I really wish I could help you out.But I seriously don't even know how I forgave Andre for cheating on me.It has been a year now since he cheated and I still don't fully trust him again but I'm getting there.

Quoting MommaOfAngels:“ I'm sorry, I have no advice to offer, but seriously - who does that? And what kind of girl WANTS to ... [snip!] ... what kind of girl WANTS to receive that kind of picture?! I'd be disgusted if someone sent me a picture of that ugly thing!”

thats what i'm saying!

Quoting nik | Waiting4baby!:“ Thats not how it works!!!! You dont learn to trust him again. He has to proove to you that he is trustworthy. You dont have anything to work on, he does.”

Great point.....
Maybe ask him if he knows the penalties for initiating sexual contact with a minor?
and ask what he thinks is appropriate behaviour in a relationship.
Ask how he would feel if you text a pic of your Vag to a co-worker, and how he thinks that would effect your r/ship.

If he says thats diff, DITCH HIM...
If he sees it from your point,.... appologise for looking in his phone.......
then slap him for being so stupid. and getting caught

by the way, you still waiting, this isnt fair! Bubby didnt get the memo for the grand entrance.

Quoting Joel's mum:“ Great point..... Maybe ask him if he knows the penalties for initiating sexual contact with a minor? ... [snip!] ... stupid. and getting caught by the way, you still waiting, this isnt fair! Bubby didnt get the memo for the grand entrance. ”

I am PRAYING to god I get induced today or set up a date for ASAP!

I have my appointment at 2:15today and I hate to say but I hope I fail my NST or the fluid check.   ughhh

mine cheated years ago before we got married. I actually walked in on the whole thing. It took me years to trust him again. I ended up calling him every hour to see where he was, called his boss to make sure he was there & checked his phone everyday til I could actually trust him. I would make him take me with him whenever he went to see a friend so I knew deep down that there was nothing there. I told him next time I'm gone & I can tell you now if he ever did it again me & my daughter are gone for good. 6 years is a long time but if you cheat once shame on you, cheat twice shame on me. Some people can work it out with someone if they cheated on them & some cant. My husband was 18 & the girl was hardly 16 when this happend so I understand the whole adult messing with a teenager thing.

Quoting nik | Waiting4baby!:“ I am PRAYING to god I get induced today or set up a date for ASAP! I have my appointment at 2:15today and I hate to say but I hope I fail my NST or the fluid check.   ughhh”

*^Lots of labour dust^*.....will be waiting for pics! I love bubbies!

It's really terrible becasue he works with this girl so its a constant reminder and she likes him. She is only 17 and could give a fuck less that he has a pregnant gf which is sick. She just likes that an older guy is paying attention to her i guess. I just feel bad for my unborn son. God my self esteem is fucked for ever now.