I don't know why...

Lately I have been wanting so much for my son's father to make an attempt at being a father for our son...I thought I was happier with him out of the picture, but I want my son to have a fighting chance at knowing his dad. I think part of it is because my SO just came home from deployment and he's had his 8 year old little girl for 2 weeks and seeing him with his daughter makes me realize how much my son is going to miss not having his dad around. I just don't know how I can make his dad realize how much he's already missing in his sons life

Quoting Meagan Hill:" Lately I have been wanting so much for my son's father to make an attempt at being a father for our son...I ... [snip!] ... miss not having his dad around. I just don't know how I can make his dad realize how much he's already missing in his sons life"

Why do you want someone in your sons life that doesnt want to be there? Your son isnt missing out on anything... except maybe missing out on being forced to be around someone he doesnt want.

It sucks the father isnt around but being forced to be there or be cornered into it is much worse for your son.

I know what you mean. I go through periods when I want my son's father to try to meet his son and be involved, and then I go through periods when I think "why the hell was I thinking that craziness!?" I guess it's just a process of letting go, because the bottom line is that BD is not there for his son and he never has been. My son doesn't need him to have a good life. But I do wonder if not having a dad can affect him negatively...then I just give myself a pep talk and commit to giving LO my best!!! lol I think A LOT about this topic