re: 7 months ago

Quoting My Lil' Monster:" She can freely speak about it but using those words are not appropriate IMO."

I disagree, but I guess it doesn't matter what I think. I'm not a mod so I can't do anything about it either way.

Hope you find peace, op.  

Quoting BB&B ♥:" But if that's how she feels...? "

I'm really torn on the whole thing. Idk.

my friend had a miscarriage recently and she keeps yelling at me for my decision, says its ironic that she wanted her baby but lost it and I didn't want mine so I got an abortion but I did want mine I just had no choice, the baby needed a mom AND a dad and me being on welfare I could not support the baby by myself and Sam would have left if I had kept it. I made the right decision for me but it makes me feel selfish like what about the baby's chance at life

Quoting BabyToutou:" my friend had a miscarriage recently and she keeps yelling at me for my decision, says its ironic that ... [snip!] ... left if I had kept it. I made the right decision for me but it makes me feel selfish like what about the baby's chance at life"

OP I totally understand and I am sorry your friend is unable to support your decision. I really hope she and you find peace.

Quoting BB&B ♥:" I disagree, but I guess it doesn't matter what I think. I'm not a mod so I can't do anything about it either way. Hope you find peace, op.   "

thank you for your support and I meant no disrespect to other abortion survivors that is just how I feel

Quoting BabyToutou:" my friend had a miscarriage recently and she keeps yelling at me for my decision, says its ironic that ... [snip!] ... left if I had kept it. I made the right decision for me but it makes me feel selfish like what about the baby's chance at life"

Honestly, if I were in your shoes, I probably would have done the same thing.

Quoting BabyToutou:" my friend had a miscarriage recently and she keeps yelling at me for my decision, says its ironic that ... [snip!] ... left if I had kept it. I made the right decision for me but it makes me feel selfish like what about the baby's chance at life"

You and your son are already here and better need a chance of life. Your gut instinct made that decision so I am sure it was the correct decision to be made. I think a more selfish thing would to keep another child when you know you couldnt do it.

Your "friend" doesnt seem like a friend at all. I would refrain from telling her any personal information anymore. She doesnt need to take her loss on you. Things happen. Some for the better and some for the worse.

Quoting BB&B ♥:" Honestly, if I were in your shoes, I probably would have done the same thing. "

makes me sad that i would have been 7 months pregnant right now

Quoting BabyToutou:" thank you for your support and I meant no disrespect to other abortion survivors that is just how I feel"

I do apologize if I (or any of us) misunderstood your meaning with the original post.

*hugs*

Quoting BabyToutou:" makes me sad that i would have been 7 months pregnant right now"

I'm sorry. Have you thought of therapy perhaps?

I see people mention my son I love my son I really do but he does not replace the other baby and I don't have any custody of my son I have supervised visitation 2 hours a week on sunday and that wont change until he is 18. So I barely have him in my life as it is I love him so much but already having a baby does not make this any easier it just shows me the joy that I am missing out on

Quoting BabyToutou:" I see people mention my son I love my son I really do but he does not replace the other baby and I don't ... [snip!] ... is I love him so much but already having a baby does not make this any easier it just shows me the joy that I am missing out on"

Why did CPS intervene with him?

ETA: And who has him?

Quoting BB&B ♥:" I'm sorry. Have you thought of therapy perhaps? "

yeah I started therapy a few months ago, Sam said that I was getting really unstable so I ended up going and I still go because I want to solve my anger issues as well as the regret that I feel

Quoting BabyToutou:" I see people mention my son I love my son I really do but he does not replace the other baby and I don't ... [snip!] ... is I love him so much but already having a baby does not make this any easier it just shows me the joy that I am missing out on"

Why don't you have your son? That has to be difficult.  

Quoting "The Boob" [HM]:" Why did CPS intervene with him? ETA: And who has him?"

My parents has him. My ex-boyfriend (JAcob's father) was abusive to me and he was stupid with babies I went to work and he dropped our baby from the high chair so my baby went to the hpsital for 6 days and people were telling CPS that I would yell at my baby and shake him so they believed everyone and took him away from me the second time he was hospitalized. My ex never showed up for court so he has no rights whatsoever to my son