Crazy?

So I have absolutely NO trust in my son's father what so ever. I've already limited his time to once a week. And I have full legal and physical custody. Which when I saw a lawyer, was confirmed that I would keep it even if he fought me for it. So anywho I hate the people he hangs out with, I don't think it's a good enviroment for our son. Well I was on FB tonight and I saw that my son was tagged in this person's album. Whom I don't know at all. And it looked like he was in the middle of the woods near a campfire, and he wasn't wearing a hat or whatever. So I just simply commented "Why is my baby tagged in this person that I don't know's fb album?" Is that completely crazy? I'm just a really over protective parent, and BD didn't tell me about that event at ALL.

If he has visitation, there isnt really much you can do, is there? Besides, what does not having a hat on, have to do with it?

I would want to know where my kid was at all times, and who they were with as well, since you have full custody. Does he have visitation rights, or is that something you're just letting him have?

Quoting Chuck Bass:" I would want to know where my kid was at all times, and who they were with as well, since you have full custody. Does he have visitation rights, or is that something you're just letting him have?"

It's just something I'm letting him have. And the hat bit was because it was sunny that day, and I know BD never uses sun screen. My baby is moon pale.

Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" So I have absolutely NO trust in my son's father what so ever. I've already limited his time to once ... [snip!] ... fb album?" Is that completely crazy? I'm just a really over protective parent, and BD didn't tell me about that event at ALL."

You guys arent going to agree of everything each other does. That is his time. You can make suggestions, but if he doesnt want to listen to you there isnt much you can do. That is like him telling you he doesnt like any of the guys you date so you need to stop seeing anybody else.

Yeah I think you are over reacting I mean his friends or him might take picture of the baby I mean maybe its the person house they were at and he tagged them.

Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" It's just something I'm letting him have. And the hat bit was because it was sunny that day, and I know BD never uses sun screen. My baby is moon pale."

Oh, if it isnt something forced by courts, I wouldnt let my kid around him if I felt so uncomfortable about it. You know best in that case.

Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Oh, if it isnt something forced by courts, I wouldnt let my kid around him if I felt so uncomfortable about it. You know best in that case. "

No he hasn't dared go to court because he knows I would win. And I just don't want people openly smoking ciggs, and weed around my son. And drinking. Because all his friends do. And Aparently this was a party. So I feel really nervous.

Quoting sweetbea0906:" Yeah I think you are over reacting I mean his friends or him might take picture of the baby I mean maybe its the person house they were at and he tagged them."

So you don't think I should be concerned? I just feel like our son is 90% mine and 10% his. I should be making all of the big decisions because I'm the responsible one. Is that really terrible?

I don't think I'm going to let him go over at all this weekend. He lost over a pound just being with his dad for three days.

Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" So you don't think I should be concerned? I just feel like our son is 90% mine and 10% his. I should be making all of the big decisions because I'm the responsible one. Is that really terrible?"

I didn't say you shouldn't be concerned but has anything ever happened to your child while with him or are you going on his pass ways, Some can be great parents but their choices with their everyday life aren't the best, the hat thing of course he's a man and maybe didnt think it was a big deal unless you told him specifically told him. Is your child happy to see him and be with him then that what should matter although he should watch his surrounding while he has him . Do you think he is good with him I mean these are questions you have to ask yourself. Talk to him my love get on the same page good luck

Quoting sweetbea0906:" I didn't say you shouldn't be concerned but has anything ever happened to your child while with him ... [snip!] ... is good with him I mean these are questions you have to ask yourself. Talk to him my love get on the same page good luck "

Thanks! He hates talking, he gets so defensive. And our son adores him. I just feel so so so nervous. I mean he lost over a pound in one weekend. And his drunk father wandered off into the woods with him once under BD's supervision. I'm just so afraid something terrible will happen and I'll feel like it was my fault.

Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" Thanks! He hates talking, he gets so defensive. And our son adores him. I just feel so so so nervous. ... [snip!] ... with him once under BD's supervision. I'm just so afraid something terrible will happen and I'll feel like it was my fault."

I would say something like its gonna be hot this weekend I hope you guys wear sunscreen or what do you fun guys have planned make him talk when he doesn't even know it lol. Sometime you have to be the nicer one for your sons happiness sucks I would assume but got to do what you have to do

Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" So you don't think I should be concerned? I just feel like our son is 90% mine and 10% his. I should be making all of the big decisions because I'm the responsible one. Is that really terrible?"

actually he is 50% yours and 50% his. if he doesnt have visitation appointed by the courts, and you're so worried about him being irresponsible with his own son, then why do you let him go? Is it to wave your power in his face, and let him know that you hold the power?

Or is it because you genuinly want your child to have his fathe rin his life? If thats the case, then why put all of your time and energy in to making sure he doesnt get shared cutody?

Quoting Heddur:" actually he is 50% yours and 50% his. if he doesnt have visitation appointed by the courts, and you're ... [snip!] ... fathe rin his life? If thats the case, then why put all of your time and energy in to making sure he doesnt get shared cutody? "

This.

And if you really want to coparent, you cant have the attitude that you make all the decisions. Kids weight fluctuates too... I mean unless he wasn't eating anything at all hes not doing anything wrong. If he was eating and drinking and being taken care of... fluctuations in weight are normal in everyone. It can be a simple matter of going to the bathroom, having a full/empty bladder, full/empty tummy, etc... before being weighed. You may have weighed him while he had bowel and urine waste. Don't demonize him yet without knowing that he's actually being neglected. Losing a pound doesnt scream "neglect" to me.