re: Crazy?

If your baby being tagged in a FB photo is the biggest issue you ever face parenting..............you are a very lucky girl. (Your baby goes on the internet?)

Really, who cares? How does it affect your life negatively? It is his child too.

Dont use your child as a pawn.

Quoting Heddur:" actually he is 50% yours and 50% his. if he doesnt have visitation appointed by the courts, and you're ... [snip!] ... fathe rin his life? If thats the case, then why put all of your time and energy in to making sure he doesnt get shared cutody? "

I really want our son to be part of his father's life. He loves his father. But there's just so much wrong that happens over his house it scares the smurf out of me. That's why I put so much effort into maintaining full custody. Because I don't think he's mature, or makes good enough decisions to have that responsibility.

Quoting DisneyMommyTTC#3:" If your baby being tagged in a FB photo is the biggest issue you ever face parenting..............you ... [snip!] ... internet?) Really, who cares? How does it affect your life negatively? It is his child too. Dont use your child as a pawn."

No the biggest issue I'vehad is his DRUNK grandfather taking my baby into the woods unsupervised. And BD thinks that's fine. "Oh well my dad was like that when we were growing up, and we turned out all right." No. no no no no no.

Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" No the biggest issue I'vehad is his DRUNK grandfather taking my baby into the woods unsupervised. And ... [snip!] ... BD thinks that's fine. "Oh well my dad was like that when we were growing up, and we turned out all right." No. no no no no no."

That is not up to you to say "no,no,no no" to him. If you are sharing time, he can do whatever he want in that time.

Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" That is not up to you to say "no,no,no no" to him. If you are sharing time, he can do whatever he want in that time. "

But it's unsafe. And I let him have that time. of my own free will.

Take him to court and get supervised visits or restrictions put on his care, like who he can be left alone with ect.

Just so you know, it's up to a judge whether he can get joint custody, your lawyer misled you if you think there's no way for him to get partial custody....

Listen sugar.........if you really think your son is not cared for properly while with him, have him visit the baby at your home. If he tries to get legal joint custody, then ask the judge to put some provisions that are in the childs best interest in the custody agreement.

Dont sweat petty crap, you will only make yourself angry, make him angry, and drive wedge between father and child. If an issue arises that truly, TRULY affects your sons well-being, then stop visits.

You really dont want a lifetime of fighting with this man over crap stuff, surely you want to move on with your life, be happy with your sweet adorable little son, maybe find a new man, and have an effective co-parenting relationship with your sons Bio-Father.

BTW, i love the name Charlie, thats my 7 year old sons name as well.  

Quoting DisneyMommyTTC#3:" Listen sugar.........if you really think your son is not cared for properly while with him, have him ... [snip!] ... co-parenting relationship with your sons Bio-Father. BTW, i love the name Charlie, thats my 7 year old sons name as well.  "

Thank you. I think the only thing I'm going to do is make him take a drug test for coke, and if he passes then he can take his son for the weekend. I think he has the right to do that. I need to let the other stuff go, and make sure he is a sobber, responsible person while with our son. And thank you! His full name is Charles Adrian.