Do you believe in putting your spouse above your children?

I know that in the bible, it basically says you should put your husband or wife before your children. I was wondering who all agrees with this?
Would you put your husband before your kids?

I don't really know what to think about it. I would hope that someday my son puts his wife above me and starts his own family to care for..then I'd be left with my husband. There are some circumstances where I'd definitely defend my own kids.

Basically, your children will end up leaving you for their own family but your husband is supposed to be there for you for the rest of your life.

It's just an interesting topic and would like to hear opinions. I love posting in the D& D.

Quoting Kyran's Mommy♥:" I know that in the bible, it basically says you should put your husband or wife before your children. ... [snip!] ... you for the rest of your life. It's just an interesting topic and would like to hear opinions. I love posting in the D& D."

depends on the situation, to me.

My children will never be second place. My husband and I both agree, the kids are above one another, but its not like we dont work on us as well. My spouse will never be above my kids.

Quoting MommaNoodle:" depends on the situation, to me."

I can agree with that.

Yes, but I also don't feel it is as twisted as it sounds. I think dh and I need to have a healthy marriage FOR our kids. I think we need to be on the same page, consistent, and supporting one another. And I think that comes by making each other a priority. It doesn't mean I ignore my kids, or I put his superficial needs above theirs...not a chance. Thing is, when both people are doing this (him putting my needs first, too) the entire thing works wonderfully.

9 times out of 10 my kids will always come first. I have caught my husband in lies before.

Quoting momma snell:" Yes, but I also don't feel it is as twisted as it sounds. I think dh and I need to have a healthy marriage ... [snip!] ... a chance. Thing is, when both people are doing this (him putting my needs first, too) the entire thing works wonderfully."

Definitely!

Quoting momma snell:" Yes, but I also don't feel it is as twisted as it sounds. I think dh and I need to have a healthy marriage ... [snip!] ... a chance. Thing is, when both people are doing this (him putting my needs first, too) the entire thing works wonderfully."

this makes sense.

Your children will always be your children, but you and your spouse could end up having a divorce. And, judging by the stats, that isn't too unlikely.

As much as I love my husband, our girls will always come before him. My Mother very much chose my Step-Dad over me, and that broke my heart from several outcomes in my life, and I took a vow to myself when I had kids someday, they would come before everyone. My husband feels the same, our girls before me.

My dh's husband put his wife (dh's step mom) WAY before...and it was so sickening. He would refuse to go to dh's baseball games, because she didn't want to go and he needed to be with her instead, ugh. That kind of crap is ridiculous, IMO. He still won't ever come out to eat with us, or whatever, if she can't come. He says he doesn't feel it is right. It's really really extreme, and silly.

Kids come first, Dh is good with that. To him the kids come first too. We love one another VERY much, But our tiny "Us's" as we call them...are far more important.  

Quoting Back to Noob Status:" Your children will always be your children, but you and your spouse could end up having a divorce. And, judging by the stats, that isn't too unlikely."

I got a good tongue lashing for almost this exact response in another thread....  
"Oh so your so insecure you think your husband would leave you?!"

I smurf you not.... 

Neither go above the other. I treat both husband and kids with respect and love. I may love them differently, my husband in a romance way and kids in a maternal way, but both are loved at the same level.

The bible is also pretty anti-woman rights as women had very little rights back then. Men were in charge, women had and raised babies. My husband is Christian but he doesn't take the bible literally.

Quoting sueforizzle:" I got a good tongue lashing for almost this exact response in another thread....   "Oh so your so insecure you think your husband would leave you?!" I smurf you not.... "

 

Which idiot said that to you?

I think it is delusional to think that divorce is impossible and will never happen in a relationship....