anyone else a single mom by choice? like with a donor? just

here's the rundown of my story.
i got pregnant in august 2011 with my first baby, who i miscarried. but before i lost her, her father left us.. i was going to be a single mom. it was very hard so to anyone wondering WHY IN HELL i would choose to do it, i understand how hard it can be to have it forced on you and i send many hugs  

anyway, my mom is a single mom (and a damn good one) my sister is a single mom (also a damn good one ) and i decided that.. you know what? i have support, more than i would have with a hubby in fact because my mother and sister are being very supportive and we all live together as roommates (all pay rent and our share of bills etc, just like a little communal tribelike family haha) so i decided to have a baby. i was ready. i am ready. i am very very very excited and i am now 22 weeks. i used a donor (feel free to ask Q's if you have em   ) anyway, i was just wondering if there are any other single donor mommies out there?  

I'd love to do this! I want a baby in the next few years but probably won't be having one anytime soon as I don't have a partner. I work nights though so I don't think it'd work well

If i got to a point in my life where I was content and stable but with no partner. I would do what you did.

As for the bio father of this child, was he a donor by his own choice? Will be be involved financially or at all??

I'm not a single mom but I have respect for them! If someone wants to be a mother and is financially and emotionally ready, then they shouldn't have to wait to meet the right guy as this can take forever!!
Good luck.
I have a question, what was the process of finding a donor? Do you know the person or did you go to a sperm bank?

I am not a single mother. But a family friend of ours actually had her kids with a donor. The kids are complete biological siblings. I think what you're doing is awesome! If you are ready and this is the way you want to do it then I think it's the best choice in the whole world.

thanks ladies   and yes, i know my donor. he is a friend of mine. after my miscarriage i began looking at spermbanks and was prepared to buy it from there but i was lamenting the price to him one night and he said "well hon, why not just take the cost part out of the equation?" and i jokingly said "are you offering?;)" haha. he said "well, actually yes" at first i was like "no.. thatd be.. odd?" but i got to thinking about it.. about him, his health, his intelligence, his physical traits etc. and decided "hey, why not cut the costs out?" we signed contracts (protecting me from custody stuff, and him from child support stuff, though i dont imagine they'd hold up that well in family court tbh.. i trust him, he trusts me, if he changes his mind someday and wants to be in her life, great   i'm so fine with that) and i inseminated artificially at home   it was a little weird for sure. but i wouldnt take it back for the world. my little girl is already so very loved and so darn cute (she sucks her thumb while playing with her nose, we saw it on the ultrasound :p ) i'm just very very excited.

<blockquote><b>Quoting amotherslove:</b>" here's the rundown of my story. i got pregnant in august 2011 with my first baby, who i miscarried. but ... [snip!] ... free to ask Q's if you have em   ) anyway, i was just wondering if there are any other single donor mommies out there?   "</blockquote>


I think this is pretty cool and I wish you all the best luck in the world!!

I personally don't think I could do it. (thankfully I have an amazing hubby) but I grew up with a single mom and she kicked ass, we are super close and have an amazing bond beyond the norm. But she never dated raising me and I feel like she lost out, I know it was her choice and my dad was so horrible I'm sure she could never trust a man again but growing up I so so so badly wanted a daddy and a sibling and the typical family. I struggled with it a lot. Just from my experience single moms have it a lot harder and I'm glad you have your support but most children need both their parents I think. I had such gender issues when I got married my pood hubby lol.

Anywho that's just me but major congrats on the baby I know how amazing it is to have one after a loss.

With the donour just wondering was in Canada that you got it and what's the average price? Do they just inject the semen or do they fertilize then implant? How
Many did you get implanted? Was it a success the first time around!

my mother never dated while me and my sister grew up either, though i think that is mostly her choice.. she has a long bad history of assaults and issues with me,m personally i had a sister and never once missed my father. i guess i just didnt know it to miss it you know?  

yes she was a success the first time   my body is pretty fab at getting pregnant and i am so lucky for that fact. anywho! this was a late night thread :p it's 5am here and i'm off to sleepy land. chat with you all in the morning  

Quoting amotherslove:" thanks ladies   and yes, i know my donor. he is a friend of mine. after my miscarriage i began looking ... [snip!] ... so darn cute (she sucks her thumb while playing with her nose, we saw it on the ultrasound :p ) i'm just very very excited. "

I'm gonna be the weird one that asks, but i'm just too curious... How did you artificially inseminate at home. I picture you with a turkey baster or some smurf (sorry... hahah).

Quoting Agent K:" I'm gonna be the weird one that asks, but i'm just too curious... How did you artificially inseminate at home. I picture you with a turkey baster or some smurf (sorry... hahah)."

That's what I was picturing too!  

Quoting pumpchkin:" That's what I was picturing too!  "

Glad i'm not the only one.

Quoting Agent K:" Glad i'm not the only one."

lol

Quoting Agent K:" I'm gonna be the weird one that asks, but i'm just too curious... How did you artificially inseminate at home. I picture you with a turkey baster or some smurf (sorry... hahah)."

although i DID try out a few methods and one of them involved a very similar looking tool, no i did not use a turkey baster haha. i mostly used a syringe   like an oral syringe for kids medicines (obviously it had never been used and never will be again haha.

You are only 21. Why choose to be a single mother so young and deprive your child of a father? Why not further your education first? Give yourself a chance to find mr right? I guess I dont understand it sounds extremely selfish of you

Quoting amotherslove:" here's the rundown of my story. i got pregnant in august 2011 with my first baby, who i miscarried. but ... [snip!] ... free to ask Q's if you have em   ) anyway, i was just wondering if there are any other single donor mommies out there?   "

I am a single mother not by a donor but I guess you could say it was by choice. I had met someone and ended up having a one night stand, I knew that he wasn't gonna be there for me or the baby so I would be doing it on my own but I still kept the baby anyways. In some ways I feel it was a little selfish on my part because I knowingly had a baby that would not have father and I never wanted that for her. At the same time I know that I can fully raise and support her by myself and that she won't be deprived of anything just because she doesn't have a father. I would rather be a single mom by choice then have a useless father around wasting space. Several of my friends that have babies are either with or are in contact with their babys father and they do absolutly nothing for the baby, they don't help financially or physically and to me it's almost pointless to call them a father because the mom is doing all the work and is basically a single mother anyway with dead weight around. I fell if you are financially and emotionally capable of raising a child single or not then go for it.