Quoting shes*almost*one!:" You are only 21. Why choose to be a single mother so young and deprive your child of a father? Why not ... [snip!] ... your education first? Give yourself a chance to find mr right? I guess I dont understand it sounds extremely selfish of you"i always wanted to start my family early. i am almost finished my education, have a well paying job at the moment and am ready for a family.
Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" No, but when I found out I was pregnant this time I knew choosing to keep this baby (my ex and I's second) ... [snip!] ... to live with them? Would you still be able to support yourself and your child? I'm just being nosy, feel free to ignore me "i have enough to support me and baby is a smaller place yes (obviously since there are so many of us, this place is expensive and has more bedrooms) however, i don't see either of those things happening anytime soon. my mother does not date.. has not dated in over 31 years and does not like men (nor is she a lesbian or is she bisexual) she would also give me much advance warning because that is how our family dynamic works. my sister COULD potentially meet someone (though she hasnt dated in uh.. 10years.. sorry had to remember my nieces age haha) and move out and we would all be very happy for her. but i don't see that happening as she is quite uninterested in dating and especially in long term monogamous dating. either way i'd be very happy for both of them as i do intend to move out myself at some point with baby
Quoting Shes Here. 4/18/12 &heart:" I am a single mother not by a donor but I guess you could say it was by choice. I had met someone and ... [snip!] ... with dead weight around. I fell if you are financially and emotionally capable of raising a child single or not then go for it."i completely agree with you. as long as you're capable and willing, why not? i really don't fancy the idea of co-parenting to be honest. this way i know who is raising my child and i know that nobody will be coming in and out of her life. i don't think what you did is selfish. i think good for you of course your situation is different.
Quoting amotherslove:" i always wanted to start my family early. i am almost finished my education, have a well paying job at ... [snip!] ... better off without mine. i never missed it at all. and if she wants to meet him, he has already more than agreed to do so. "
Quoting ΊΧί‘±©΅ΧΊ:" so did you and the donor go to court over the papers you drew up?"nah, we had my lawyer draw them up and we signed them with a witness. to be honest, they were just formalities. if he changes his mind and wants to be in her life i'm very okay with that. and i know i would never go after him for child support. the papers were more there to protect him from things later like students loans for her wanting to know his income etc. he will just be unnamed on the cert. i havent any need for his income, i make enough on my own. i mean, i'm by no means rich. we struggle off and on like any other family.. but i don't expect that to change much and it's never more than we can handle (though it will be grand once i'm doing probation officer or parole officer work) i just wanted to be in a closeish age proximity to my children.
Quoting ~*My heart is complete*~:" I'm a single mother. My son was planned by me and his "father" but he walked out. I have thought often ... [snip!] ... a donor for another child. I would love to give my son a sibling. I have little desire to go date and like doing it solo."if you're ready for another and you're interested in doing it, i say go for it there are a few websites to help out choicemommies and if you think that you're in for it, ladies all over the country/countries are doing it
Quoting amotherslove:" here's the rundown of my story. i got pregnant in august 2011 with my first baby, who i miscarried. but ... [snip!] ... free to ask Q's if you have em ) anyway, i was just wondering if there are any other single donor mommies out there? "my boyfriend has been trying to get me pregnant i wasnt sure if i was ready but if i got pregnant id accept it babies r a joy..... i made him start wearing a condome i had actually considered doing what uve done ....... well we finally stopped the protection and got pregnant.... i have a child already a lil boy whos now 4 his father and i seperated my boyfriend has been in his life since he was 3months old..... now my boyfriend and i r having problems and on the verge of seperating much like u my family too is very supportive and now that im no longer depended on a man i can do this ......in a way any women that carries her child all the way through and gives birth done it by choice so u r not alone cause any man that would leave or allow his girl to leave w no futher contact IN MY BOOK he is considered a DONOR thats what my mom told me my sons father is .... so i wish everyone many luck
Quoting Aliana:" I'm glad I found this forum & topic!! My precious baby due to be here in September wasn't planned, ... [snip!] ... fine by me. I'd rather do this the way I'm doin it, rather than waste my time and energy worrying about his immaturity level."congrats and good on you. i honestly think that if you have to pull teeth to make the father even be sortof in the babys life, then it's not worth it.. i'd rather my child be surrounded by loving people who WANT to be there than force someone who doesnt and will probably be a bad influence. my angel babys father told me to get an abortion too, i'm so sorry.. harsh words i am glad i chose not to, though she left us too soon anyway.