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Sometimes I think my husband doesn't think about the "jokes" he says. Tonight he looked at me and said "I told you I don't like looking at you." He was joking, but it hurt so much. I am now sitting in a computer chair, hugging and crying into my pillow because of his "joke". I have major self-esteem issues and I already feel like I don't look good enough for him. I am 35 weeks pregnant and none of my clothes fit me anymore, every part of me is swollen, etc. I feel like smurf right now and has he apologized or come see if I'm okay? Nope.

I'm sleeping on the couch tonight, I'm too hurt to even sleep in the same room as him.

Quoting Pregasarus♥:" Sometimes I think my husband doesn't think about the "jokes" he says. Tonight he looked at me and said ... [snip!] ... or come see if I'm okay? Nope. I'm sleeping on the couch tonight, I'm too hurt to even sleep in the same room as him. "

throw something at his ass next time lol DH does the same thing, finally i started crying infront of him & telling him what a smurf he sounded like & he stopped. i hope you feel better mama

Quoting Ruby Runion-Brown:" throw something at his ass next time lol DH does the same thing, finally i started crying infront of him & telling him what a smurf he sounded like & he stopped. i hope you feel better mama"

Men can be so insensitive. That's the one thing that really bothers me with DH, his "jokes" are sometimes REALLY hurtful. I feel bad for being so upset, but for some reason tonight that just really got me.

Quoting Pregasarus♥:" Sometimes I think my husband doesn't think about the "jokes" he says. Tonight he looked at me and said ... [snip!] ... or come see if I'm okay? Nope. I'm sleeping on the couch tonight, I'm too hurt to even sleep in the same room as him. "

I was just going to say the same thing as Ruby! My husband doesn't really think before he says things a lot of the time. But as soon as he sees that he hurt my feelings or made me cry, he apologizes right away. (And feels horrible about it.)

Quoting TiddlyWinks ♥:" I was just going to say the same thing as Ruby! My husband doesn't really think before he says things ... [snip!] ... time. But as soon as he sees that he hurt my feelings or made me cry, he apologizes right away. (And feels horrible about it.)"

I might try to talk to him about it tomorrow... he has to get up in 3 hours for work and knowing him, he'll stay up all night trying to make it up to me.

Quoting Pregasarus♥:" I might try to talk to him about it tomorrow... he has to get up in 3 hours for work and knowing him, he'll stay up all night trying to make it up to me. "

That sounds like a good idea. Image jokes are the worst. My husband used to say things about how big I was when I was pregnant. Mega Belly was his favorite name to call me. I used to be on the skinnier side so it always hurt my feelings. I finally broke down and cried and we had a talk about it. Now he's very sensitive towards my body and image issues. He tells me that I look great all the time. (Even though I know I don't with this 20 extra pounds I've been carrying around) And since he knows I want to lose weight he even got me the Insanity workouts. All it took was that one talk.  

men can be so insensitive exspecially durring pregnacy!! they don't realize how hurtful things really are. DH kept calling me fat (i know he was playing but it hurt my feelings really bad) as i was putting on the weight & the past 2wks was talking about how i'm 20lbs lighter than him when normally i'm over 40lbs lighter, finally i had to tell him (i completely broke down crying) that i feel bad enough that not even the materinity cloths we bought barely fit & i feel like a walking whale. i think once they realize that it really hurts us they feel awful.

Quoting TiddlyWinks ♥:" That sounds like a good idea. Image jokes are the worst. My husband used to say things about how big ... [snip!] ... around) And since he knows I want to lose weight he even got me the Insanity workouts. All it took was that one talk.  "

DH used to make little comments when i was around 26wks like "i thought buddah was supposed to be peaceful" & "calm down santa i thought you were supposed to be jolly" i could have killed him lol & ohh insanity i've been thinking about trying that after my pp checkup. has it worked any?

Quoting Ruby Runion-Brown:" DH used to make little comments when i was around 26wks like "i thought buddah was supposed to be peaceful" ... [snip!] ... i could have killed him lol & ohh insanity i've been thinking about trying that after my pp checkup. has it worked any?"

I so would have hurt my husband if he had said anything like that! lol
Well I just started the workouts 2 days ago. So far they're kicking my butt! I could hardly walk after the one I just did. But I know the pain means I'm getting back in shape so it motivates me even more to keep going.  

Quoting TiddlyWinks ♥:" I so would have hurt my husband if he had said anything like that! lol Well I just started the workouts ... [snip!] ... after the one I just did. But I know the pain means I'm getting back in shape so it motivates me even more to keep going.  "

eventually i started commenting on his weight gain (dh just got discharged from the army in feb so he's been really fit, awsome muscle tone, no flab anywhere until now) & one day it hurt his feelings. i looked at him & simply said, ok now do you see how i feel when you say those things to me & i have an excuse? his jokes stopped now he makes sure he clearifies hes joking lol. & i heard it was hard but you could work your way upat your own pace. ahh i can't wait to try it

Quoting Ruby Runion-Brown:" eventually i started commenting on his weight gain (dh just got discharged from the army in feb so he's ... [snip!] ... clearifies hes joking lol. & i heard it was hard but you could work your way upat your own pace. ahh i can't wait to try it"

lol Sounds like our husband's have the complete opposite in body issues. Mine's always pouting because he thinks he's too small and skinny. Well he does weigh less than almost everyone in his company...Even the girls. lol
Oh gosh the whole time I'm working out I'm just like "Why am I putting my body through this?!" Then after I finish I'm just like I feel great! lol

Quoting TiddlyWinks ♥:" lol Sounds like our husband's have the complete opposite in body issues. Mine's always pouting because ... [snip!] ... I'm working out I'm just like "Why am I putting my body through this?!" Then after I finish I'm just like I feel great! lol"

lol i loved working out but my gym wont allow pregnant women, & doing it at home with no motivation & being exhausted i gave up lol

My partner is critical not about my looks but just everything else lol. He is so stubborn and has to have his own way. Men just don't get how hurtfull they can be with the smurf they say.

I say be direct and tell him exactly how he hurt you and not to do it again.

Quoting Ruby Runion-Brown:" lol i loved working out but my gym wont allow pregnant women, & doing it at home with no motivation & being exhausted i gave up lol"

That's the great thing about living in the mountains. We hiked a lot while I was pregnant until I was put on bed rest. It kept me in great shape.

Quoting TiddlyWinks ♥:" That's the great thing about living in the mountains. We hiked a lot while I was pregnant until I was put on bed rest. It kept me in great shape."

i walk the neighborhood but when dh works 10-13hrs a day he doesn't want to go with me & my mom hurts to bad to do much walking :/ i used to make him go downtown with me & walk the falls but that was when he worked 7 on 7 off.