How to remove comfort items.

I know I sound evil, but this is seriously ridiculous. My daughter is 2.5 years old (almost) and is suspected to have autism. Waiting for the callback with results. We just got her off the bottle (at night only) 3 weeks ago and she is STILL taking her binky. She won't leave it alone or go to sleep without it. She shares a room with her younger brother so I'm not sure what I can do without her having a meltdown for hours. Suggestions?

What have you tried to take it away?

We have taken them away completely before and she literally screamed for HOURS until we gave her one. We tell her it's gross and she will throw it on the floor for a while but eventually find another one somewhere she has stashed away. Her brother chews on them when he finds them (he's teething but doesn't really use a binky) and she will scream to have one too. I don't know of any other ways besides just taking it away.

She might need that oral stimulation to calm herself to sleep. During the day, you could try to switch her over to chewlary or chewy tubes and see if that helps, might be more difficult at night though because they wouldn't stick in like "plug" lol

My son (almost 5 with autism) took a sippy everynight at bedtime until about 8 months ago. He needed that deep sucking to calm himself to sleep.

Why dont you want her to have it?

My son is 4 he has autism, hes a finger sucker. I've never told him not to, I feel like its his way to soothe himself when he has a sensory overload or is frustrated and cant communicate that. Its worked out well because now hes at a point where he only needs that soother at bed time.

My daughters never took a paci..
But I had them watch me make them a new special fuzzy blanket to replace their comfort item (bedtime bottle). My daughter is 4 and she has moved on from the blanket thing 80% of the time unless she is in a mood, or sick, which is fine because that's what it's for. And the baby NEEDS her blanket at bedtime.

I don't not want her to have it. Technically she is still a baby, to me anyways. And I don't want to make her uncomfortable. Doctor's and dentists and CPS workers and my home visiting nurse are all saying I need to take it away. My grandma said there are bigger worries than a binky. I'd rather fix her teeth later than upset her now...

Quoting La Reggaetonista:" I don't not want her to have it. Technically she is still a baby, to me anyways. And I don't want to ... [snip!] ... to take it away. My grandma said there are bigger worries than a binky. I'd rather fix her teeth later than upset her now..."

Don't let them bully you.   Do what you think is best for your child!

Quoting La Reggaetonista:" I don't not want her to have it. Technically she is still a baby, to me anyways. And I don't want to ... [snip!] ... to take it away. My grandma said there are bigger worries than a binky. I'd rather fix her teeth later than upset her now..."

I dont know I feel like shes so young and the suspected autism would make me want to let her have it. What does CPS know anyway.

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" I dont know I feel like shes so young and the suspected autism would make me want to let her have it. What does CPS know anyway."

CPS knows guidelines and statistics, not my child.

Quoting La Reggaetonista:" I don't not want her to have it. Technically she is still a baby, to me anyways. And I don't want to ... [snip!] ... to take it away. My grandma said there are bigger worries than a binky. I'd rather fix her teeth later than upset her now..."

Then you let her have it!

Seriously, you can do a quick google search to find tons of info to back up the fact that kids with autism sometimes need oral stimulation, self regulating items, etc. If they want to make it difficult for you, you can hit them back with the proof that she needs it for her comfort right now.

You are the mom, you know her. Period. Don't let them bully you. You need to have your sanity to so you can get through the day, and if a soother gives you that, then so be it. If she has autism, you have bigger fish to fry than her sucking on it at bedtime.

My FOUR year old will still suck binkies if she can find one (we have a baby too). She just loves them. Fine with me when we're at home. Let her have it. Don't let anyone bully you :-)

I sooooo regretted taking my sons's away, and if I would have known what I know now I never would have (at night at the very least). And you know why I took my son's away, because I was afraid people would comment-like I ever gave a smurf what ignorant people thought anyways -damn. Anyways after researching several of my son's sensory issues, which is most likely what your son has is sensory seeking. I realised that the trigeminal nerve (google image) is almost defective if you will and that people afflicted with sensory issues need to stimulate this nerve in order to function'normally'. My son would almost melt when he had his soother at night, and bury his head in his mountain of gigantic stuffed animals. My son would also sit on my head and try and make me put my hand on his crotch -which thankfully I found out to be due to the need of pressure (or stimuli) to this trigeminal nerve that also travels down to the crotch area. I found a firm ball or water bottle he could squeeze down there worked )thank God, lol)

But honestly, why take something away from a child who has extra needs that no-one really knows better than Mom. You are your child's advocate and if you think taking away a paci is going to interupt her sleep and the sleep of others then obviously it isn't in your family's best interest. Maybe try and give her other more ' socially acceptable' oral soothers during the daytime, like maybe a sugar free lolli, or a smooth toy.