Thinking about leaving BD,,,

Our baby is only three weeks old and I can't stand BD now that we are living together. He takes over an hour showers, he stays up til 1 reading pokemon comics, he spends money on pointless crap, I feel like I'm dating a 5 year old. We are young, both of us are 18, but all of my focus is on providing for my baby and getting myself through college. Idk what to do, Idk if its post-pregnancy hormones or what. But I'm always cleaning up after him, doing his laundry and mine, plus babys, which I guess is normal for a married couple, but 1. we arent married and 2. I just wish he would grow up a bit and help out and actually have real solid plans instead of wasting money.

Well first off, he is 18, so he's still technically a teenager..  

Second, have you discussed any of this with him? He cannot change if he does not know their needs to be change. If you haven't already talked seriously with him, I'd do that first before just leaving him.

Have you sat him down and talked to him properly about this?

SO was like this at the start too. He didn't even realise that he was doing it because I was picking up all his slack. Then when I sat down and wrote out absolutely everything I did and what he did, he saw that he really wasn't helping out the way he should.

Quoting RissaBbyGurl:" Our baby is only three weeks old and I can't stand BD now that we are living together. He takes over ... [snip!] ... married and 2. I just wish he would grow up a bit and help out and actually have real solid plans instead of wasting money."

Talk to him about it...

You literally just had the baby.
Maybe he needs time to adjust and settle. Maybe talk to him about it.

Does he work, do you work? I stay at home so im usually always picking up after him. Dont feel had though, my boyfriend is almost 25 and stays up until sometimes 5 and play ps3, but I still make him get up in the morning. He also collects comic books, no way to.change him lol!

Have you told him any of what you just told us? I know with a new baby it's hard, but communication is key!

Quoting RetroMama:" Have you sat him down and talked to him properly about this? SO was like this at the start too. He didn't ... [snip!] ... sat down and wrote out absolutely everything I did and what he did, he saw that he really wasn't helping out the way he should."

This

Give it some time. Let your hormones calm down, and him time to mature. If it stays the same and you can't deal then leave. why did you have a baby and move in together if you can't stand him?

He's masturbating. That's why he's taking long showers. And Pokemon is the smurf.

Other than that, tell him to clean up after himself, or you're leaving him. If he doesn't, then leave him.

Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:" He's masturbating. That's why he's taking long showers. And Pokemon is the smurf. Other than that, tell him to clean up after himself, or you're leaving him. If he doesn't, then leave him."

 

Seriously awesome as hell. And I stay up reading comics so meh lol.

Well it's a hard adjustment to make after having a LO but you shouldn't be doing all of it by yourself. Just tell him what your expectations are. He should be cleaning up after himself and contributing to running the house.

Sit down and talk to him about it.

Let him know that you are worried about the amount of money going out, and that you'd like to do a budget and stick to it.

Also let him know that you would appreciate him helping out more around the house. Then write out a list of things that need to get done every day and ask him to pick a few that he'd like to be responsible for.

I live in az too! Where about are you?? I live in the west valley it is soooo hot! I dOnt blame you. Have you talked to him about your cOncerns

And if he's working and you aren't, then you need to be more considerate.