WHY!?

WHY is everyone telling me to calm down!?? My mom says "keep your composure" my friend says "you need to tone it down"... I'm ready to flip even more bc I feel I have the right to be angry. Wouldn't you be? This just sucks. I'm prone to bouts of depression and this is just making it 10x's worse by being told basically, that I'm not allowed to express my feelings. Yes I have 2 kids but they're in bed so now tell me why I'm still not supposed to cry or get upset? ... wtfever.

Idk, what are you mad about? You have every right to be mad about whatever you want I guess. I wouldn't worry about it.

what are you angry about?

a m/c and hosp. negligence.

Quoting DifferentDay:" a m/c and hosp. negligence."

The miscarriage, yes you have a right to be angry and upset.. How was the hospital negligent?

You are entitled to be angry and hurt! I would be too in your situation (read your other post)!

lied pretty much to my face about what was going on. it's more detailed in my other topics but that's the short version. they knew it was a m/c. they sent me on my way to wait it out for another whole month so my OB appt. could tell me instead, basically.

Hi,
Also suffered from depression in the past...You have a right to feel however you feel whenever. Not expressing your feelings like they are saying yes is going to make it worse. My advice is to express them because by not it's only going to make it worse, i'd express them whenever wether the children were around or not as long as it's not being taken out on the children there is no problem.

I'm not taking it out on my children but my oldest (she's 3) she picks up on tone of voice, facial expressions, and can put it all together. People that know what's going on in my circle (which isn't much) mean well but I just don't want to be bothered by them. Sounds crappy but there's nothing they can say that's gonna make this better. They think I'm "terribly upset" about the loss of the baby, but what they don't understand is there never was an embryo just the sac. Nothing developed after that. I wanted the baby to be healthy but that wasn't in the cards this time around. I can understand that. I can live with that and accept that part. I CANNOT deal with the fact months afterwards I'm still carrying this.. thing. not even a dead fetus, just an empty sac, nothing else, inside me until god knows how much longer. Couldn't that lead to an infection or something? I could be moved on already if the d*mn hosp. would've done their job and had balls to tell me there was nothing. Could've had a d&c by now and would've been TTC in another month or two. I'm angry. I'm FURIOUS. And unfortunately my kids are here and see their mama cry a little outta frustration mostly. I don't know how else to shield them from that and my circle of ppl think that's wrong of me to subject them to that. Well wtf am I supposed to do? Hubby needs to work 3-11pm so guess who takes care of the kids? But now time for shower and go get this BS round of blood work done at the place I absolutely hate with all the fiber of my being.

Quoting DifferentDay:" I'm not taking it out on my children but my oldest (she's 3) she picks up on tone of voice, facial expressions, ... [snip!] ... now time for shower and go get this BS round of blood work done at the place I absolutely hate with all the fiber of my being."

Hi,

I wasn't meaning you were I ment that if you weren't which was clear by what you had previously written what was their problem.

I am pretty sure they can do something bout that at the hospital but I don't think it is supposed to be left...I'd complain about the hospital to the head of the hospital or someone higher up. They should of told you and it sucks that they didn't tell you.

I don't believe it is wrong for your children to see you cry and you shouldn't shield them from that. I would tell the 3yr old that your just feeling sad or your not feeling well or something along those lines just to help her understand a little bit.