Quoting DifferentDay:" I'm not taking it out on my children but my oldest (she's 3) she picks up on tone of voice, facial expressions, ... [snip!] ... now time for shower and go get this BS round of blood work done at the place I absolutely hate with all the fiber of my being."
I wasn't meaning you were I ment that if you weren't which was clear by what you had previously written what was their problem.
I am pretty sure they can do something bout that at the hospital but I don't think it is supposed to be left...I'd complain about the hospital to the head of the hospital or someone higher up. They should of told you and it sucks that they didn't tell you.
I don't believe it is wrong for your children to see you cry and you shouldn't shield them from that. I would tell the 3yr old that your just feeling sad or your not feeling well or something along those lines just to help her understand a little bit.