Any advice??

I'd like someone else's point of view ...

I've tried very hard not to be closed minded about my situation because I need to think about my son and his best interests but I'm running out of hope. 

My sons father and I were married for over a year and had a beautiful little boy. The abuse started when I was eight months pregnant. I stuck it out and had our little boy but it continued and escalated just before my sons first bday. My ex and I were both arrested (I slapped him in the face after he smashed my head into a wall) my charges were dropped as self defense right away an his stayed. He promised things would change so I stayed with him but soon left when I realized it wasn't going to ever be different. I called him and said I filed for divorce and that I was done - sometimes I feel bad for not doing it sooner. 

My sons father hasn't been very involved. He was taking our son about two days a month until he assaulted me again last August then didn't see our son until December. He's seen our son about 6 days from December until present date. I don't know what to do. I don't want to force parenting time if he isn't wanting to be involved. 

My lawyer has been in contact with his lawyer in regards to custody/access/ and our divorce but now we can't get ahold of them! Our last contact with my exs lawyer was mid may and she won't return the calls/emails etc. 

My lawyer said its up to me how we should proceed. Should I wait or make an application for custody and the divorce??

Sorry if there's spelling mistakes. I'm on my cellphone

I would move forward with custody and divorce.

Double post  

your still married. Yes you should get custody and a divorce. I wouldn't let him be around your son either. If he can beat you he can do it to him too.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blythe.:</b>" your still married. Yes you should get custody and a divorce. I wouldn't let him be around your son either. If he can beat you he can do it to him too."</blockquote>




This!

DEFINITELY go for custody and divorce!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blythe.:</b>" your still married. Yes you should get custody and a divorce. I wouldn't let him be around your son either. If he can beat you he can do it to him too."</blockquote>




Yeah trust me my sons safety is my main concern that's why his father has supervised visitation.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blythe.:</b>" your still married. Yes you should get custody and a divorce. I wouldn't let him be around your son either. If he can beat you he can do it to him too."</blockquote>

This.

Quoting Mrs. Hemsworth ♥:" I would move forward with custody and divorce."

!!

for sure. you dont need the stress of wondering when he was planning on walking back into your life.
LO doesnt need that either...

I would definitely move forward with everything. If he doesn't want to be involved then I would keep trying. Your LO deserve a stable father figure and doesn't need the heart break of him going and coming when he pleases.

Quoting Chellie and Tyce:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Blythe.:</b>" your still married. Yes you should get custody ... [snip!] ... too."</blockquote> Yeah trust me my sons safety is my main concern that's why his father has supervised visitation."

but he hasn't been doing that?!

I would def proceed to get the divorce & custody which I am sure would go in your favor.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Miss Ashley +2:</b>" but he hasn't been doing that?! I would def proceed to get the divorce & custody which I am sure would go in your favor. "</blockquote>



Sorry, I haven't been doing what? I'm confused!

Quoting Chellie and Tyce:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Miss Ashley +2:</b>" but he hasn't been doing that?! I would ... [snip!] ... & custody which I am sure would go in your favor. "</blockquote> Sorry, I haven't been doing what? I'm confused!"

you said he has supervised visitation ... has he been doing the supervised visits?

Just move forward......start the paper work and get the guy out of your life. You don't need a loser in your life. You and your son deserve better

Would move for custody and divorce its the best thing for you and your boy.you dont need that kind of abuse and neither does your son need to see his mom be attacked. Raise your son to respect woman as men should but to tell the difference from a woman who could potentially abuse him. It goes both ways. Im sure youll make the right choice as a mother but i strongly advise if the dad is distant like that to keep him away from your boy. Cuz it will only hurt him in the end. Your boy will respect you as a person im sure for making the right choice .but talking badly about the other parent isnt encouraged cuz your child is half of that person and by saying bad things about the other parent could make the child think something is bad about him...its easier to build up a child than it is to fix an adult.