real mature!

Please dont quote!
My BD sister put this on her FB about me


Aren't you just awesome sitting there never knowing how it feels to be away from your son, never knowing what you're doing to him by keeping him to yourself. One day soon though you will and for a long time I hope.


Like really do you think you sound mature?He hasnt asked in about 2 weeks to see him! She really needs to get out of my life. I swear she thinks my kid is hers! She tried to tell me how to "do" MY pregnancy! Would get in my face a yell at me and BD(when we were together)would just sit and watch! The whole time I felt like no one in his family cared(and tried)about stressing me.Really that could have been bad for my son. Now he is here and they all think they should just have him! Seriously this is between BD and me! My mom does get involved but my son and I live in HER house they cant just come and go when they please! they thought they could for a while. The only time anyone but him(in is moms family)has asked to see him is when people were in town and they wanted to show him off. It really makes me think they do not care and just want the status.
Sorry just frustrated! BD and I tialked last night and it went kinda good. I think WE are on the almost same page but as soon as he tell his mom and sister he is going to go back on what we said! Ahhhhh it always happens!

Ahh, passive aggression.

Just try to ignore them as much as possible. Its understandable that they want to see him, but for her to post something like she hopes you'll know what it feels like to miss him for a long time is totally out of line. She's making it sound like she's going to try and take the baby from you. :/
But you're right, its no ones business but your and your BD.

She has also posted that she hopes my son hates me so much I kill myself so I wont be a stress in her life! It is so hard to just ignore it I do pretty good but sometime I just want to call her and tell her she is WAY out of line! I wouldnt be suprised if she did try. She wants a baby so bad but her husband doesnt and she cant seem to even get pregnant. When we told her I was pregnant she said she just couldnt talk to me(she didnt want a baby at that point) then WHen we found out about the twin she said she hated me. Nither of those were my fault!I was on BC and didnt want a baby at that point.Then when we found out the twin was gone she laughed! Like really everything her and there mom does is so hurt ful. I crawled into his house crying in apin at the beining of my pregnancy and his mom was there and she steped over me and took 19mins to tell him I was over! She told him that I wasnt having a real baby because we arent amrried and to just forget about us. And a few days latter he ditched going to the OB becasue she wanted to go shopping! When I had corey I said no one was alowed in my room and I had very good reasons to say so. And of corse they all stood around my hospital bed 12 hours latter and his mom told me. Well now you are stuck with all of us , you cant run or hide from us now. Threaten much? Like if I was going to leave I wouldnt have told anyone I was pregnant and left! They are parraniod and they actions show they dont care about my son and no one has asked to see him in a long time! His dad asks if he needs anything and sometimes(recently) has asked to see him. Everything with him was fine for about a month. He was asking to see him and was seeing him then he just went anf filed for joint custody and all diff kindas of stuff and from what I understand on the papers he is trying to not have do child support ir help at all with corey finacialy.

Wow, I'm sure that is hard to ignore, but only you and BD are the parents. Just remember that nothing they say matters and its up to you to keep that boy happy. And as for her trying to take your LO, I wouldnt worry, no judge in their right mind would take a baby away from its mother just because another woman is being a jealous bitch. lol

I hope not lol I wish she would just get pregnant and move already!!! She was 50%of my stress there mom was 30% BD was 15% and then the other 5% was worrying about my son when I was pregnant. After we broke up it was way better for the most part. and They are most of the reason why we did break up. I camt be with someone who is going to alway put his mom and sister over me and our child. who thinks its ok to yell in my face ALL of his moms family did it even him it just sucks because everyone was fine till I got pregnant. Really his sister was our roommate and was a close friend and it all hurts that so many people i was close to have done this. And I dont have any friends or anyone here because I made him my whole life and we shared his friends that he was close with before we got together. So now I( am stucl in a place I hate anf have no one.It sucks all of it!

You have every right to be so angry and they have no place or say in the matter is between you and your BD but holy man....does that woman need to chck herself...there are those people out there and the best thing to do is keep them out of your life. I had a grandma like that once always causing problems it was christmas and we were going to my moms parents place for xmas and my dads adoptive mom said your not coming down for xmas then i guess ill jus have to return all the gifts i bought.....well we ended up going there instead and she had to go shopping for gifts cuz she never bought them in the first place.....i can kinda understand the munipulation that goes on with your BD's family its best to ignore it and deal with yours and BD'S problems and help him understand that they are trying to control your life kinda thing grow up and be a man like seriously mommy n sis are control freeks. And he needs to man up and tell them its his and your child...but you also need to bring to his attention what they do and say to you let him read those fb posts....he will wake up hopefully.

Wow. I'm sorry you had to go through all this. I know someone in a simular situation BD's mom and sister really verbally abusive. In the end she stood her ground and told them that they don't have to like her, get on with her or even talk to her but if they want to be within 2 feet of her or her son then they have to learn to be civil with her. After a few weeks of yelling and cussing. It finally dawned on the immature, irresponsible pair that the child is the priority in this situatuation and that they should put there differences aside (regardless of who is right or wrong) and focus on what is best for the child. If they don't eventually realise this then that's there problem. It only means that you were right and they obviously dont care as much as they should and as for your baby father. He doesn't seem to be doing the best he can for his child and I think his family know this deep down and are tyring to defend him. They all need to grow up and start focusing on the baby

BD says Im the control freak because I tell him that negative things a so redicules on FB. and I had pre-e and refused to talk to him and he was sooooo mad I still get so much crap for it. My parents took my phone away so I wouldnt read his texts because they upset me so much and they didnt want my BP to rise anymor. And he thinks that was us being selfish!!!! He ditched me the whole time we were together. He now has a GF and has even more stopped trying.BUt he is trking me to court!Only because his mom and sis want him to and he has told me this!He has also told me that he will do anything to ruin my life....alot of mental probs he has came out during my pregnancy.He comments on her posts saying O how true and oother simalar things. So he knows he really doesnt care who gets hurt none of them do. They think they are perfect. right before I found out his sister got married and her so called best friend didnt even show up and she crossed the line with someone she had been close with for like 15years and didnt relise what she did hurt her, so I dont think they will. Rhey call talk to much crapabout me when I have done nothing by do my best to protect my son. I am going to talk to my lawer today so I should know whats going on. I am so fed up they have me stressed not knowing if they are going to just show up and start a fight. They so would thats just how they are, I have seen them do it before.

take him to court save all the messages and all the facebook stuff and show the lawyer and inform him of all the problems deny the father any rights cuz i think that would be best for you and the baby cuz you especially dont need the stress. its not right and not fair to you or the child your not being selfish your doing the best for you and your child...try not to get so worked up cuz they arent worth the effort or your time obviously...so deny them that pleasure of getting to you ignore their calls ignore their messages block them off of facebook and most of all dont call them..standing your ground and standing up for what you beleive is right for the benefit for you and your child is the best move you can do. it may be hard but they will eventually stop calling and get the cops involved and get a restraining order from him and the family if need be....to avoid any further complications in the future.

I talkted BD on monday to see where he stands and he really dosent want to go to court. But yesterday my lawer said it would be eaisier to just go because he will not agree to things I have to say. So I am going to tell him that much. I want corey to know his dad just is a safe controled enviorment. And I know its kinda petty but I gave him my last name(well one of them mine is hyfinated) and he is so mad about it. He isnt going to drop it. I gave him the last name for a reason and he hasnt done anything to deserve it. And another thing I am planning on doing he wont agree to. So now we are going to court but who knows when that will be. One of the judges here left and the courts are backed like crazy. I cant get a protective order because I dont have any physical proof of the threats. MNy lawer said the worst of the texts are probley to old to use or to even get.

ahh ic well dont let your hopes dwindle you can do this as you already have done lots now. but you can still come out on top cuz you are the biological mother and he may be the dad but you can prove to be the more sane one the court will work in your favor trust me if you can show legitimate proof that he or his family is showing any sort of hostility towards you, you win if they continue with the bull crap use that.