wait it out or d&C?

I had been bleeding this weekend so I went in for a sono this morning, there was no more little heartbeat   They said it is up to me to wait and see if I can pass it naturally or go ahead and get a d & c. A part of me just wants it all over with. Any advice? Wait and see if it all passes naturally or go in and get it taken care of right away? Ugh, I was really hoping for good news and I didn't get it.

Oh hun I'm sorry for your loss. It really is your decision. Baby may not pass on his own, A d&e at this point is probably best.

I have always preferred to get a D&C just to get it over with and because D&C's bring very little pain for me and recovery is swift. There is always the risk of asherman's syndrome though so I would talk to your doctor about that. Mine claims to be extra gentle especially in cases where fertility preservation is important.

I had mine naturally but after I had wished I just had the d&c. Everything was horrible and it just added to my depression.

I am so sorry for your loss  

It depends on how you feel about it, waiting and not knowing can and usually does make things worse mama. I am so so sorry  

I preferred to let it happen naturally. It's bad enough that it happened in the first place, I didn't want a doctor rooting around in there scraping up my uterus. I'm sorry for your loss but I think this depends on your personal preference.

I'm sorry for your loss..
I was supposed to be 12 weeks when I found out my baby stopped growing & passed away at 9 weeks; I waited & let it pass naturally, it was hard, very painfull, physically & emotionally. If I knew before I still would of chose natrual, just because its my lil angel.

I lost a baby at 11 weeks, I had the D&C, because I knew it would be less emotional for me than waiting and having to deal with all of that alone at home. I had my husband with me at the hospital, and he took off work the next day to help with our son. It was still emotional don't get me wrong, but it seemed like the best choice for me. I knew it was over and done with instead of having to wait around for nature to take it's course.

It's really up to you and how you feel about it. Sorry for your loss.

im so sorry for your loss. ive done both waited for baby to pass natural and a DnC. and to me the natural way added to stress, and when baby passed it actually traumatised me. Its a very personal subject. and you have to do what you feel right, have you not been offered a pill to help things along naturally, that might be worth a look xxx

I'm so sorry. It's ultimately your choice. I went ahead with the D&C because my husband travels for work and I could not have handled it at home by myself. Some people prefer to wait it out and go natural. You need to do what's best for you and we are all here if you need anything.

I'm so sorry... I found out at 9 weeks that there was not a baby, waited a week and a half for cramping or bleeding to start it was awful. I ended up going for a D&C and it was a very quick procedure with quick healing. At that point emotionally I couldn't handle much more so I wanted to get it over with. I think it is a very personal decision. I hope either way it goes quickly for you and you can start healing emotionally too.