re: breast feeding and custody

Quoting Kimber-Lily:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Peppa pig:</b>" Then I don't understand why the law is framed ... [snip!] ... It's not the fathers or the courts problem that you go to school tho. I think this is a tough titties moment."

Well it's not that simple...I feel forced to go back to school because as it stands, I cannot afford to live on my own...he didn't want me to get child support and for a little while, I was going over receipts with him....but he refuses to pay for my prenatal care and if I lose a receipt, I am doomed....he is also very verbally abusive and has said other things that might make a judge worry...I am just trying to see how this would work in isolation without all of the other factors taken into consideration.

My lawyer seemed confident last time we met that my concerns about his statements regarding his wishes for me to give birth to a stillborn and his erratic, volatile temper along with several wishes for me to drop dead and not attend my funeral are some things a judge will take seriously....all texts will be subpeoned and I am trying to keep a diary of each event to show a pattern in his behavior and how easily he flies off the handle...I do had a legitimate fear that if I piss him off while he is alone with my baby, he will unintentionally, or intentionally, harm him....not to mention, i do not want my child to be subject to his anger...Idunnno....please don't quote this one.

Good luck...my ex had assault charges and still has full visitation, they didn't even stipulate that it be monitored.

Quoting myKaydence:" Good luck...my ex had assault charges and still has full visitation, they didn't even stipulate that it be monitored."

It is not that I want his rights to be revoked...don't get me wrong...but his anger toward the situation, especially after he was the one who abandoned me during pregnancy and didn't get me a shred of reassurance as to whether or not he would even be a part of our sons life, is what concerns me....

I want to take coparenting classes...or i would like to see if he can go for angermanagement...my lawyer says he will try and make this happen considering the continuous abuse...the last time i was at his house, i thought he was going to hit me but since i only thought that and he didn't actually do it...i am kind of stuck..i just want him to let go of his anger and honestly i think the best thing might be a visitation schedule with limited contact between us and in time, we can go back to the way things were when we first planned all this out...

but still....what if he hurts my baby and it's my fault that i didn't at least try to see to it that he works out his issues...thank u for your support...


pls don't quote dis eitha yo

I completely understand where you're coming from, but if he can pretend and show the judge that he is changing his ways or whatever they will work with him as much as possible. It sucks but its just the way it is. Especially since you don't have police reports or anything and its just texts. Best of luck to you, my attorney promised a lot of things too but in the end I just got effed over.

Quoting myKaydence:" I completely understand where you're coming from, but if he can pretend and show the judge that he is ... [snip!] ... and its just texts. Best of luck to you, my attorney promised a lot of things too but in the end I just got effed over."

Can I still make a police report when it happened two weeks ago or does that look fishy? I imagine it would look fishy but in my defense, I was scared and trying to give him time to think about what happened...instead he came back guns a blazing and is even worse...telling me I am not welcome in his house and since I am low on milk this weekend, and need to work and take a test tomorrow for the doctoral program I am applying for, he said "forget it" about seeing our son today  

I can't imagine that looks good for him...but nothing surprises me anymore.

The thing is that most courts allow overnights so the mother cant just breastfeed the child just to avoid overnights.

If the courts see him fit... I bet he will get overnights.

Quoting FroggysMommy:" The thing is that most courts allow overnights so the mother cant just breastfeed the child just to avoid overnights. If the courts see him fit... I bet he will get overnights."

I'm just gonna keep doing the right thing and let him hang himself w his behavior...he said papers were written up...it's thurs and still no petition...im calling his bluff but im pissed bc i cancelled my fkn vacation...im just keeping records and documenting errthing and hopin' for the best....shoulda left state while pregnant lol