re: I would never be okay

<blockquote><b>Quoting annabelle509:</b>" Sorry you have to makes this descion. I lost a child due to edwards syndrome trisomy 18. MAking that ... [snip!] ... sorry for you having to make this desicion and having to go through this. best wishes, pm me if you need to talk to someone."</blockquote>


Doctors thinks she has trisomy 13. As of now we've only did an animosity test to count the chromosome to confirm.

U will be in my prayers....personnally i would take and cherish every second i was able to spend w/my child whether its in the womb or out. I am currently 22wks and every hiccup & movement i feel is a blessing to me.....i have felt the pain of mc and also known the tremendous joy of giving birth. I have dealt w/inaccurate test results (that scared the crap out of me) but remained full of hope and faith. I have given birth to 5 healthy infants to end up having 2 of them diagnoses w/Autism Spectrum Disorders   I believe that God will not give me more than i can bare.....Hopefully u will be granted the ''peace that surpassed understanding'' to get through this heartbreaking time.

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. You have options still, your doctor should have a case manager or someone to help you through this and to find resources whatever you decide,

I'm so sorry mama.
No matter what you decide or feel, you're not wrong ONE BIT. You are her mother and your instincts will tell you what's best for you both.

I was pressured to abort my baby at 20 weeks because the doctors were sure he would not make it. For weeks after that, I thought I was going to have to plan his funeral. But I wouldn't have gotten an abortion, I would carry him as long as possible and enjoy every minute..and that's what I did. Fortunately, we got extremely lucky and our LO is okay. I wish you luck, I'm so sorry. </3

Quoting Unbr3@k@bl3:" So today I went to see my specialist, when I was told the worst news ever. There's a REALLY STRONG possible ... [snip!] ... how do I possibly continue to carry this child knowing only in the end she wont be with me. Am I wrong for wanting to abort???"

This actually happened to a friend of mine. She was about as far along as you and decided to go thru with the pregnancy and ended up delivering a stillborn. As traumatizing as it may seem, what are the chances it will die either way, do u know what I mean? But then again, there are a lot of miracle stories out there about moms who are told their babies are going to be sick and/or not make it and they come out perfectly healthy. It's a pretty tough choice either way, I hope you have a supportive family/friends that you can talk to for advice and comfort.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ..::KNiCOLe::..:</b>" This actually happened to a friend of mine. She was about as far along as you and decided to go thru ... [snip!] ... It's a pretty tough choice either way, I hope you have a supportive family/friends that you can talk to for advice and comfort."</blockquote>


Well the choice has been pretty much made not many places do abortion so far along and the procedure they do at this stage is mind blowing

I am so sorry, OP.  

try to enjoy the time you have with her.

best wishes.
you can pm any time

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I lost a child at 32 weeks, because her umbilical cord wrapped around her several times cutting off her air supply. It was so hard for me. I don't think you are wrong for wanting an abortion. As a mother we don't want our children to have to suffer grouping up as a child. Make the decision that is best for you, remember everything happens for a reason.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mariahcherry:</b>" I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I lost a child at 32 weeks, because her umbilical cord ... [snip!] ... to have to suffer grouping up as a child. Make the decision that is best for you, remember everything happens for a reason. "</blockquote>


That's what I keep telling myself but this I just can't found a logic reason

good luck in whatever you choose. I hope you pray about it and hope you get a second opinion if possible. I'd hate for you to abort and it "could" have been born healthy but then again it would be such a terrible loss to give birth to a stillborn or a child who does not survive long. I will be praying for a healthy baby for you mama. God Bless.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amanda Contento:</b>" good luck in whatever you choose. I hope you pray about it and hope you get a second opinion if possible. ... [snip!] ... give birth to a stillborn or a child who does not survive long. I will be praying for a healthy baby for you mama. God Bless. "</blockquote>


Thanks, after a lot of thinking I decided to keep her. I just love her too much to just give up. Besides if she going to continue to fight I might as well be her cheerleader. Either way I'm going to be hurt so I'm going to enjoy the rest of my pregnancy, live in the moment, enjoy every bit of her, and if worst shall happen I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

Quoting Unbr3@k@bl3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amanda Contento:</b>" good luck in whatever you choose. I hope ... [snip!] ... of my pregnancy, live in the moment, enjoy every bit of her, and if worst shall happen I'll cross that bridge when I get there."

Hugs!!! That's great to hear and I pray when you hold her in your arms that she is a perfect healthy baby. God Bless you and your baby (and baby daddy if he is there too   )Good luck as well.