re: I would never be okay

<blockquote><b>Quoting BlackVelvet:</b>" Back when i was 17 i had lost a child at 24 weeks. The doctors were almost certain she wouldnt live at ... [snip!] ... honestly i wish i would of aborted to save myself from everything i went thru. I had to deliever her vaginally. It was horrible"</blockquote>


I'm SO SORRY to hear that but that's exactly what I'm saying I don't think I can handle it!!

Quoting Unbr3@k@bl3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BlackVelvet:</b>" Back when i was 17 i had lost a child at 24 ... [snip!] ... was horrible"</blockquote> I'm SO SORRY to hear that but that's exactly what I'm saying I don't think I can handle it!!"

Even 7 and half years later its still hard. i lost her 1/24/04

Quoting Unbr3@k@bl3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" I'm sorry <3 Did they explain anything ... [snip!] ... a problem with her kidneys, and some or her intestines are going in a sack outside her stomach inside of where they should"

So sorry. Now I feel like a bitch!

If it were me, then I would definitely have those thoughts in my head as well seeing all the things that they think may be wrong.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy  :</b>" Firsty I'm really sorry about your news. Do they know exactly what is wrong with your LO? Is it possible ... [snip!] ... wanting to abort if your LO is not fine, some times it saves yourself a lot less heartache. I hope all works out well for you"</blockquote>



Yes we did an amino test, but doctor is pretty sure he knows what it is considering my baby has four or five of the symptoms. I just don't want her to have to hurt or suffer whether its abortion, birth, or whatever. That's would would hurt me the most!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ciara♥:</b>" So sorry. Now I feel like a bitch! If it were me, then I would definitely have those thoughts in my head as well seeing all the things that they think may be wrong."</blockquote>


Thats okay cause you didn't know and I asked for honesty. But as of now that all they know of just waiting on test to confirm the diagnosis.

Quoting Unbr3@k@bl3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ciara♥:</b>" So sorry. Now I feel like a bitch! If ... [snip!] ... you didn't know and I asked for honesty. But as of now that all they know of just waiting on test to confirm the diagnosis."

Well I hope all goes well for you. You and your baby will be in my prayers.

Quoting Unbr3@k@bl3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ciara♥:</b>" So sorry. Now I feel like a bitch! If ... [snip!] ... you didn't know and I asked for honesty. But as of now that all they know of just waiting on test to confirm the diagnosis."

If you don't mind me asking, what are they thinking she has?

First id like to say i am so so sorry to hear that. I lost my daughter stillbirth july 17th 2010. Although that has nothing to do with what ur going through right now, i know the thought/or reality of losing a child is the worse possible thing anyone can go through. I think after reading what you and others wrote, my personal opinon would be NOT to have a abortion. I personally dont believe in them but that is 100% NOT the reason why im saying that. I have read some of the most crazy and unbelieveable stories, of babies/adults...whoever surviving situations where they're chances were as little as 0-1% chance. I think that we live in a unknown world. Maybe they could be wrong (not saying they are) or maybe she beats the odds, you just never know. I know i'd live with regret with the not knowing if she would have survived if i had a abortion. Miracles happen everyday. At one point in my life i was given a 10% chance to live, im here today with no surgerys or procedures done. In the end its ur life and ur baby. And you have to life with whatever happens, so do what you think is right. But i strongly suggest no abortion. Even if u have that few minutes with her alive if thats all that it is, id give anything to have just a few minutes with my daughter. Goodluck with whatever you choose to do, i'll be thinking of you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mj's Crazy Mama♥:</b>" If you don't mind me asking, what are they thinking she has?"</blockquote>



I cant spell it but its a chromosome disorder where she has 13 when shes only should have 12.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyMasters:</b>" First id like to say i am so so sorry to hear that. I lost my daughter stillbirth july 17th 2010. Although ... [snip!] ... id give anything to have just a few minutes with my daughter. Goodluck with whatever you choose to do, i'll be thinking of you."</blockquote>

That's how I feel but I'm just really scared of the suffering and pain she will go through once she's born.

A girl at my parents church was supposed to be aborted...the doctors said she wouldn't live and could possibly endanger her mothers life. She ended up carrying her anyway and I believe she had to have a multiple surgeries but they both survived and are fine now....Every situation is different...is she okay in your womb....I can definitely understand not wanting her to suffer but if she is fine and pain free in your womb...you could cherish at least w/e time you have left with her in your belly

Trust me i TOTALLY understand on not wanting them to suffer. Thats my greatest fear in life with my children, although my son is 2.5 months right now and i am no longer pregnant, my biggest fear is them ever having fear or pain in life. But still, what if she survives, you must be strong for her. Cherish the moments you have with her now cause you can never relive the past. You can do it, i dont know you but your already a mother and mothers are one of the strongest woman alive. Sending good vibes ur way!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Unbr3@k@bl3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommyMasters:</b>" First id like to say i am so so sorry to ... [snip!] ... That's how I feel but I'm just really scared of the suffering and pain she will go through once she's born."</blockquote>



Maybe talk with your doctor and a pediatrition and see what your options would be...you don't have to make a decision right now...only you know the best one...my thoughts are with you Momma

my cousins baby was born last year with multiple problems, she had the option to abort when she was about halfway through, the babys intestines, part of the stomach and some other issues were all on the outside of his body. He had to be delivered via c-section because of these things. He had a long recovery and a few months in the hospital and he finally came home. I am not saying this is always the situation, but a lot of things can change from what a doctor sees on tests th=o what really is capable of happening when your LO arrives. Sending hope, love, and prayers your way to help you through whatever you choose is best for you and your family.

Sorry you have to makes this descion. I lost a child due to edwards syndrome trisomy 18. MAking that desicion is difficult, but even more dificult for me was waiting for him to pass naturally. if your child does have trisomy 13 that is very sad. are you going in for a triple screen to make sure? the odds of trisomy 18 and 13 are very similar. which makes it a bit easier to decide. well at least for me it did. the survival rate is soooo low. right before i was going to make the desicion to abort my baby made the choice for me and i misscaried. Again i am very sorry for you having to make this desicion and having to go through this.

best wishes,
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