Anyone feel my frustration?

My husband works second shift, so he gets home around 11:15 PM. He doesn't usually want to go to bed right away, so he stays up till about 3-4 AM. While he totally helps me take care of Ella at night by changing diapers, he still gets way more sleep than I do since I have to sit up for half an hour or so breastfeeding while he sleeps. Plus, Ella gets up between 5 and 7 AM, and I've usually only gotten about 4 hours (collectively) of sleep. He usually doesn't get up till noon or a bit later. He's getting 8 or 9 hours of sleep, but I'm only getting 4 (or less, at times). He's the one the works, though, so I've been letting it happen without saying anything. However, I'm always really exhausted because of this, and it makes my PPD a lot harder to deal with. Does this seem fair, or should I try to work something better out? Are any of you dealing with a similar situation? Any suggestions?

Do you pump?
Than you would be able to share the feeding duties....

It's not fair and I totally feel you. Sorry I have no advice.  

my situations is a bit diffrent but still frusterating, my fiance is in the navy so he's not here to help at all, and doesnt have any one waking him up at night every 4 hours to eat, and yet he complains that he doesnt get enough sleep,  


i if were you id just explain to him how you feel and tell him how overly tired you are. and ask him for more help

Any trusted friend/family that asks you "do you need anything?' Tell them YES come on over and even just an hr of them holding your baby can refreshing you. Go take a nap. You know your baby is in next room and you can get some well needed sleep and I agree with Twinsontheway2008. Pump if you can and baby can take a bottle. Best of luck.

I wish I could help you out.I'm a stay at home mom of 3 kids (3 1/2,15 months,2 weeks).And I do it all alone.I am exhausted.It's usually midnight before I fall asleep and I'm up feeding the youngest every 2 hours and then I'm usually up by 7 with the other 2.I have just gotten used to it over the years.

Quoting Twinsontheway2008:“ Do you pump? Than you would be able to share the feeding duties....”

I do pump, but I'm afraid that I would stop producing enough milk at night if I stopped nursing as often. I could just get up to pump if my husband were giving her bottles of breastmilk, though, since that takes much less time than actual nursing.

I feel your frusteration. I had it all figured out when my fiance worked at this one job. I had it figured he could get up with the new baby at least one each night. Well he got a new job, that requires him to get up earlier then his old job. Now I don't have it figured out, except for him to get up with the new one on his days off. I haven't had her yet, but i'm scared that i'll end up with PPD, like I did last time because of lack of sleep. I wasn't getting any sleep and my PPD was hard to deal with.

Not so much anymore, but with my first baby my husband was like that. He would sleep and I would be the one up and taking care of the baby 24 hours a day. This last baby was rough too but it wasnt his fault. I had alot of PPD after she was born because the day after I got out of the hospital from having her our two year old was put in the hospital with her asthma and was in there for 4 days. So after being away from my husband and kids for pretty much 3 days having the baby and being at the hospital I was seperated from my husband and 2 year old again for them being at the hospital. I was miserable and all I did was cry.

I was reading in a baby magazine, and there was this one comment about sleep deprived Moms, it said no one told me I would look at my peaceful looking husband, and just want to slap him silly. I busted up laughing because I been there with my second. He'd be asleep and i'd just want to smack him lol, he didn't hear her like I did... but now he hears our 13 month old just fine at night, hopefully he'll be able to hear the new one too... maybe I might get some help.

i'm in the exact same boat...i BF and hubby works 1-10, sometimes 11pm...and he don't go to bed until 2 or 3am...so our plan most of the time is i take care of kaleigh at nite while he's sleeping...and sleep when she sleeps until she wakes for feedings...and then i wake him up 3 hrs before his shift...that way i can get at least a 2hr nap to myself while he watches her or she sleeps for him...its been that way since birth now...works so far

That's tough. IMO getting up to pump is just as tiring as getting up to feed so I would probably just keep doing what I was doing. It's not always fair but it won't last forever. Maybe if you could pump before you go to bed at night and then let the hubby take the first feeding at night while he is still awake anyway, that might work?

My hubby works second shift and gets home at 11:30 but he's awake by around 9am the next day. I would be annoyed if he was sleeping in until noon, lol.

Quoting mana--baby:“ i'm in the exact same boat...i BF and hubby works 1-10, sometimes 11pm...and he don't go to bed until ... [snip!] ... get at least a 2hr nap to myself while he watches her or she sleeps for him...its been that way since birth now...works so far”

Yeah, we've been talking about trying to work something out similar to that. I do get to sleep in on weekends and only get woken up to nurse Ella, so that's been a big help, too.

Quoting HollsSN:“ That's tough. IMO getting up to pump is just as tiring as getting up to feed so I would probably just ... [snip!] ... and gets home at 11:30 but he's awake by around 9am the next day. I would be annoyed if he was sleeping in until noon, lol.”

Lol. Yeah, it totally is. I blew up at his yesterday because we went to bed at the same time that night, then Ella got up at 5 AM, and I'd been up nursing her all night. When I asked my husband what time he was going to get up, he said "I dunno...wake me up around 11 or so". I was so pissed.

Quoting January S.:“ Yeah, we've been talking about trying to work something out similar to that. I do get to sleep in on weekends and only get woken up to nurse Ella, so that's been a big help, too.”

well i don't get to sleep in lol...i sleep on wutever schedule kaleigh is on...cuz stupid hubby can't hear the baby cry, so everytime she wakes up crying, i gotta get up...phooey lol