Quoting *~Bunny~Hump~*:" He wouldn't be so pissed if we worked out an amount. It's going thru the courts that piss him off"
Don't get suckered into a bad situation. No one wants to go through the courts...easier to neglect responsibility that way. If you don't have a court order, there is no way for you to enforce it. And don't feel bad. Your child is entitled to that money. And speaking from experience, the amount will likely be so minimal he shouldn't miss it anyway! My ex husband barely pays enough support in one month to cover swimming lessons, let alone any of our child's real needs.