never thought id feel so trapped..[long--sorry!]

okay before i even begin, i just want to say through all this ive learned this is basically what i get for deciding to stick with this and be a teen mom. so please save me any of the "you shoulda knowns" and what not..im already about to lose it  

i guess what im really looking for is advice. for some backround info..my parents are divorced. and my mom has been my custodial parent for my whole life. her and my dad are civil..he just doesnt agree with alot of her.."ways". and im starting to see. my moms been involved with this guy..who isnt exactly the brightest of them all tosay the least. but around feb. of this year they split..he moved out..and things actually took a turn for the better for me and my moms relationship for once. but then surely but slowly you could start to see my mom just getting crabbier and more depressed. you can DEFINETLY bet your ass that shes one of those that think without a man..there isnt NO way to be happy..great huh?  so about a week ago she tellsme about how she misses him and made "so many mistakes" blah blah blah and BAM. within 2 F-ing DAYS hes moved back in and "part of the family again !" needless to say, i am not taking this well at all. and apparently, their getting married. ha. i honestly feel like im just living in this house and thats it. no family. no communication. nothing. everytime i even hear her ringtone on my phone my stomach just drops cause i already know theres something i didnt do or didnt do right. i havent been this stressed EVER. honestly. and tonight when i tried to ask her why she wouldnt even TALK to me about him moving back in or what i thought or anything around those lines..she told me to stop being jealous.

my main thing here i guess is..im fucking 16. she controls EVERYTHING about me. and she knows it. she was remodeling our basement for me and my baby to live and everything and had NO problem with it. i think she was being so generous because she knows she screwed up with my sister...and she doesnt want that to happen again. but i cant live here with all this going on..its not even a home. i guess wat i need to know is how do i get out of here?! my dad is completely in my life and hes always asked me to come live with him instead, but how do i transition my whole life from being with her to being with my dad?! because she will do all she can to fight it. 

Do youhave other family members to go to that is willing to support you?

yeah basically my whole family sees my mom as destructive and wouldnt even question my need for help..

Quoting JuLY 27Th**:“ okay before i even begin, i just want to say through all this ive learned this is basically what i get ... [snip!] ... but how do i transition my whole life from being with her to being with my dad?! because she will do all she can to fight it. ”

can you just go over there for a week or 2 and see how you like it before dropping the bomb on mom and making a commitment to the move?
I am sorry you are having all this stress.

yeah thats what i really want to do! just because ya i hate it here, but im not ready to leave ya know..but my mom wouldnt take it so personally its not even funny.

i mean would* ha

if your mom were to take it to court (if it got that far) usually if you're over the age of 14, a family court judge will allow you to have a say in where you want to live. mind you, this is not always 100%. but in most cases, that's how they work it. especially if you're getting ready to have a kid of your own, they will take thatinto consideration.
hopefully it wouldnt get that far but it sounds like if your father is a better parent and willing to help you out with and when your own baby comes and he's the "healthier" living enviornment, it seems like that would be better for you and your child.

God that's tough... Tell her that she has her own shit to deal with right now... and so do you.. you can't be living in the middle of HER mess with a baby on the way.
Just because you're the child in this relationship doesn't mean that she isn't acting like one... it seems like you're the one with your priorities straight and she's acting like a teenager.

Definitely try it with your Dad... You're lucky to have that option at least... and if she's going to take it so personally tell her to grow up! Sometimes a parent like that just needs a big reality check like that from their teenage daughter.

Good luck hun... and try not to get too stressed... if it gets to be too much go out for a walk or something... because the stress isn't good for the baby.
 

haha gosh thank youu   all the replies make me wanna cry cause all this has made me so damn emotional  haha. thats what she keeps saying it is tooo..so no actually im not completely hormonal   thank you guys though so much! i just talked to my dad and he asked why i would even ASK to come over haha. so hopefully this means things will turn around  

Regardless of your age remember that you have to do the best thing for you and your child. If that means moving to a new and better location than that is what you will have to do.  I know that fear of the unknown is hard better it is more that just you now.

Depending on what state you live in at a certain age, the kids get to choose where they live. In child custody cases, its always what is in the best interest of the child, not the adult. Trust me, my parents are divorced and I know what its like to move into another parents house. I lived with my dad and moved up to my mom's when I was 17. Its hard at first and you might actually miss your old life, but it can give you a new beginning that you might not have had if you had stayed with your mom. I would talk to both of them about it and tell them you would like to move to your dad's.

Just tell your mom you want to take a break and stay with your dad for a little.

P.s my son was born on july 27th!! lol this time next yr you'll have a 9 month old

maybe wen ur in the basement itll be a little different like ull have ur own life and be a little more seperated from them and itll be better u shud try that 1st and THEN if that doesnt work go live with ur dad..