re: Let the baby cry.

The normal baby fussing is unavoidable. But if the baby is screaming, her needs have got to be met. She doesn't have wants at this age, only needs. She needs to feel secure, and crying by herself will not foster that security. Meet her needs now and she'll be a more secure sleeper later.

I never let my kids cry. Its always just tore me to pieces. My son is pretty well mannered and My daughter is always a happy 1 year old!

Quoting EmmaGrace:“ The normal baby fussing is unavoidable. But if the baby is screaming, her needs have got to be met. She ... [snip!] ... feel secure, and crying by herself will not foster that security. Meet her needs now and she'll be a more secure sleeper later.”

that makes plenty of sense because I never let my sonCIO...sometimes he would cry when I left the room but he was already 8 or 9 months old and even then I ran back into the room as quickly as I could lol...he's always slept about 12 hours at night or so..

Quoting Erica (MizAmERICA):“ that makes plenty of sense because I never let my sonCIO...sometimes he would cry when I left the room ... [snip!] ... months old and even then I ran back into the room as quickly as I could lol...he's always slept about 12 hours at night or so..”

Not that personal experiences really "prove" anything, but my aunt who had 4 children was big on CIO in the crib for her babies. She bragged about how it would make them more independent. All 4 of those children had terrible nightmares and ended up sleeping in the bed with their parents starting in toddlerhood b/c they were too afraid to sleep by themselves.One of them slept in their room on the floor in a sleeping bag until he was 12.
My 2 girls, on the other hand, had their needs met promptly as babies..and they never want to sleep in our bed now. They go to sleep on their own at 7:30-8 pm and sleep until 7:30-8 the next morning.

Quoting Erica (MizAmERICA):“ that makes plenty of sense because I never let my sonCIO...sometimes he would cry when I left the room ... [snip!] ... months old and even then I ran back into the room as quickly as I could lol...he's always slept about 12 hours at night or so..”

I agree, it makes sense. I believe there have been studies done that prove that if a child younger than 4 months is left to CIO they are actually fussier older infants than their counterparts who were never left to CIO.

Nevaeh is over a year and I have never let her CIO. And honestly I never will. Alot of people think Im wrong for doing so, but we are doing fine. If you are going to I would wait until your baby is at least 6 months.

It's just that if I put her down, sometimes she'll fuss for about 5 minutes and then just go to sleep. (Either in her rocker, bouncer, or bassinet!) And when I was a baby, I had colic, so I was left to CIO often. I'm not going to let her scream..but if she's just overtired and a little fussy, I'll see what happens within a couple of minutes!

Quoting ♥Fabulous♥:“ It's just that if I put her down, sometimes she'll fuss for about 5 minutes and then just go to sleep. ... [snip!] ... not going to let her scream..but if she's just overtired and a little fussy, I'll see what happens within a couple of minutes!”

do what you feel is right, there are many opions on the cio method and its up to you, and only you to decide what is right for your child, i let ailey cio, although it never took too long, and she was screaming and then i let her scream for maybe a minute, and then i picked her up and it is not always a need, when they hit around 4-5 months they just like to hear there voice, and every baby grows and devolpes differently, so only you know when your child is ready to cio.

I don't use the CIO method. It just doesn't work for us.

I do know a lot of moms that use it though and it has been wildly successful for them. They all started using it at 5 or 6 months though, I think.

I couldn't bare to hear my baby crying. Now I let him fuss and make noises. When he starts to cry, I'll go over and talk to him.
Sometimes that soothes him. If my baby needs me to hold him, I will.
I never had to use the cio method with my first. I doubt I will with this one as well. I want my children to know that when they cry or need me, I will be there in a flash. I never had that and I want my children too. Now being fussy is another story.

I always thought they say to start that at 4 months, not 2.

I think if youve gone months upon months(like 5 or 6) where you are just exausted and your baby wont sleep all through the night..then try it. If it works for you and your kids, then I dont see a problem with it.

Quoting ♥Fabulous♥:“ It's just that if I put her down, sometimes she'll fuss for about 5 minutes and then just go to sleep. ... [snip!] ... not going to let her scream..but if she's just overtired and a little fussy, I'll see what happens within a couple of minutes!”

I think the most important thing to do is follow your instincts. You know when your baby is just fussing and tired.

The problem I have with some proponents of CIO is they sometimes make a mother feel as though she should ignore her natural inclinations and instincts in order to "teach" the baby to be more independent.

This page says the Ferber Methord (CIO origin) suggests to start at 6 months
http://www.professorshouse.com/family/children/the-ferber-method.aspx

Specifically: The Ferber Method shows parents how to teach their child to soothe himself to sleep from the age of 5 or 6 months. The method has proven controversial, mainly because it has been misunderstood as a harsh system of letting the baby cry it out until he falls asleep. As the outline below shows, there is considerably more parental involvement in the Ferber method than many people have been led to believe.

This is a good site, too...

I mean...
http://www.babyminestore.com/newsFerberMethod.html