People inviting themselves to my delivery!! :O
394 postsposted 12th May
A bit of a long story, that I'm gonna make short. My Aunt (Mom's sister) has been staying at my parents home for the last two months and is in the process of getting divorced from her abusive husband. She has become a closer part of our family since being there, but it still feels odd sometimes to go visit my Mom, Dad and brothers who are 11 and 15 and have my aunt there all the time. Everyone else has their little issues as well, but anyways the deal is that she's there. I had a thought a few weeks ago that my aunt would want to come to the hospital when my baby was being born, and I would NOT want that at all. I tried to talk to my Mom about it, and Mom wasn't worried about it - doesn't think it would be an issue at all, I ended up crying about it, lol, lovely hormones. Anyways, yesterday my husband and I were over at my parents for Mother's Day, and I was talking to my aunt by myself at one point, and not sure how to topic was brought up, but she said that she would take the day off work when I was in the hospital having the baby!!! :O EEK. I was so shocked that I didn't say a thing. I told my Mom tonight over the phone what she had said, and my Mom said that next time she brought it up, I should say something along the lines of only two people allowed. I only want my husband and mom there while I am giving birth. The only ones I want to see the baby right after she's born is my Dad and brothers. I don't understand why people think it's their place to be at someone elses very personal moment. Anyone else having issues?
Sorry for it being long when I promised it would be short, lol. Thanks if you did read it all, or just take a guess at what I wrote and write back what you think would be a good answer, hahaha.
quoteSorry for it being long when I promised it would be short, lol. Thanks if you did read it all, or just take a guess at what I wrote and write back what you think would be a good answer, hahaha.
I have 1 child & live in Ottawa, Ontario
1551 postsposted 12th May
thats a hard situation. not wantingg to be "mean" but you gotta put your foot down.. u can do it as your mom said.. and sound REALLY sorry.. be apologetic if you feel the need. but make it the way YOU want it.. you dont want to regret anything later
quoteI have 1 child & live in Portland, Oregon
2640 postsposted 12th May
Quoting Kassandra26: A bit of a long story, that I'm gonna make short. My Aunt (Mom's sister) has been staying at my parents ... [snip!] ... if you did read it all, or just take a guess at what I wrote and write back what you think would be a good answer, hahaha. My family is boarder line retards thats why NO ONE but hubby will be there.I refuse to call anyone til after the baby is here and I have even made up the perfect lie the baby was born in the car lol!!
I'm TTC since January '98, have 15 kids & live in Indiana
583 postsposted 12th May
im having similar issues.. my fiance's (great) aunt informed me yesterday that she was gonna be in the delivery room when im giving birth, i do not want her in there.. i only wanted my mom and my fiance' to be in there with me.. i have no problem with people coming up there and visiting after the baby is born and all but the waiting room up there is going to be packed with people and i dont know how to say back off.. i would rather just be left alone with my baby, my fiance' and myself..
quoteI have 1 child & live in Asheville, North Carolina
678 postsposted 12th May
Do you think maybe she just wants to be AT the hospital?
I went to the hospital when my best friend was having her baby & I didn't go in the delivery room. I would have never dared, but I was just there for her. There were about 15 of us in the waiting room lobby just waiting so that we could see the baby in the nursery afterwards.
Surely she wouldn't want to go in the room.
quoteI went to the hospital when my best friend was having her baby & I didn't go in the delivery room. I would have never dared, but I was just there for her. There were about 15 of us in the waiting room lobby just waiting so that we could see the baby in the nursery afterwards.
Surely she wouldn't want to go in the room.
I'm due October 16th (a girl) & live in Oklahoma
posted 12th May
Quoting June baby 2008: My family is boarder line retards thats why NO ONE but hubby will be there.I refuse to call anyone til after the baby is here and I have even made up the perfect lie the baby was born in the car lol!!
hehe awe, you made me laugh with the 'border line retards', lol. I also can't believe you would tell them you had the baby in the car!!! hahaha
I have 1 child & live in Ottawa, Ontario
2314 postsposted 12th May
No, I haven't really had any issues yet. I was going to have my sisters bestfriend be my doula. She isn't a registered doula yet. i was going to be her "practice" or whatever. I was fine with the idea at first but we would hang out at my sisters place once a week or so and she would never talk to me about what her role was or how she could help or anything really so I just decided I wouldn't be comfortable with her being in my delivery room. I've talked to her about and she's okay with it...she said she udnerstands it's private and it's totally up to me.
Other than that,I have a feeling my one close friend who is now backpacking through Australia and I haven'ts seen in months who is coming back at the beginning of July will want to be there. Not in the delivery room but waiting with my family. And I would not be cool with that at all. I think the first few moments of your baby's life are super special and they should be shared with the people who have always been there for you and who will always be there for you and your baby. So, I'm only letting my family and my boyfriend and his parents come to the hospital while 'm going through delivery.
quoteOther than that,I have a feeling my one close friend who is now backpacking through Australia and I haven'ts seen in months who is coming back at the beginning of July will want to be there. Not in the delivery room but waiting with my family. And I would not be cool with that at all. I think the first few moments of your baby's life are super special and they should be shared with the people who have always been there for you and who will always be there for you and your baby. So, I'm only letting my family and my boyfriend and his parents come to the hospital while 'm going through delivery.
I'm due July 26th & live in Saskatchewan
posted 12th May
Quoting Jackson's Mommy{35 weeks}: im having similar issues.. my fiance's (great) aunt informed me yesterday that she was gonna be in the ... [snip!] ... with people and i dont know how to say back off.. i would rather just be left alone with my baby, my fiance' and myself..if she said "yeah im gonna be in there" id be like... the hell you are! its my parts on display and i choose who they are on display too lady!
I have 1 child & live in Portland, Oregon
4702 postsposted 12th May
only my partner will be in the room with me... but everyone else is welcome to wait and get a look of bubby once he/she is born..... they ahve been waiting 9 months and feel very much a part of my pregnancy so I dont mind.... if you say no to visitors maybe no one will come at all and then you will sooooooo bored without visitors...I had about 10-15 people the very first day after Molly was born it was tough but being alone in a hospital is much harder I think....goodluck though
quoteI have 3 kids & 2 angel babies & live in Australia
posted 12th May
Quoting Jackson's Mommy{35 weeks}: im having similar issues.. my fiance's (great) aunt informed me yesterday that she was gonna be in the ... [snip!] ... with people and i dont know how to say back off.. i would rather just be left alone with my baby, my fiance' and myself..I think you're only allowed 2 people in the room when you're giving birth anyways
I'm due July 26th & live in Saskatchewan
posted 12th May
Quoting KCollins: Do you think maybe she just wants to be AT the hospital? I went to the hospital when my best friend ... [snip!] ... room lobby just waiting so that we could see the baby in the nursery afterwards. Surely she wouldn't want to go in the room.
I would really love to think that, but I know otherwise, lol. She made it pretty clear that she wanted to be in the room, lol. If it comes down to it, I don't want to be the mean one, but I will tell the nurse to tell her or anyone else other than my Mom and husband that they need to leave. If they wanted to wait in the waiting room that's fine, (but awfully boring).
I have 1 child & live in Ottawa, Ontario
posted 12th May
Quoting Kassandra26: hehe awe, you made me laugh with the 'border line retards', lol. I also can't believe you would tell them you had the baby in the car!!! hahahaLOL No joke I can't stand a damn one of them they don't care enough to spend time w/ me or my other babiesso why in the hell would I want the stress of having to deal w/ the stress of my familes b/s I mean they r the type to try to catch the baby coming out my coot just to hold it first and then fight of who gets to hold her next w/ the cord still attached!!
I'm TTC since January '98, have 15 kids & live in Indiana
posted 12th May
Quoting Faithie's Mama Jeanne: if she said "yeah im gonna be in there" id be like... the hell you are! its my parts on display and i choose who they are on display too lady!
yesterday when she blurted that out i just wanted to reach over and slap her.. my fiance' kept telling her no and she kept on saying that she was.. she would not give up.. even after we had left my fiance' little brother called us and told us that she was still rambling on about how she was gonna be in there and how she couldnt believe that anyone would tell her otherwise.. ugh so annoying.. i dont know why some people just dont get the fact that its our baby and to back off and let us be..
I have 1 child & live in Asheville, North Carolina
posted 12th May
Quoting SugAr MomMy: I think you're only allowed 2 people in the room when you're giving birth anyways
yeah i think it is here at the hospital that i will be at.. if she starts waddling in there the doctor can tell her to go on..
I have 1 child & live in Asheville, North Carolina
posted 12th May
Quoting Jackson's Mommy{35 weeks}: Itll take u on the top of a chair screaming out "get the hell out" for her to get the point then do it but u could say she fell out in the car like I am
I'm TTC since January '98, have 15 kids & live in Indiana
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