Quoting ~Hayden's~Mommy~:" today was the first time i tried and she just flipped out even more. yelling "no no no get off mommy" i just wish her OT was coming this week "
You May have to Suck it Up. I DO Personally know How Painful & in countless ways it is for Momma.
As you know Keep Calm, Steady & Control in Your Outter Presence.
Hug Her Tight From Behind (Make Sure You keep You Nose & eyes out of her way). With her Arms Contained in the hug. Also make sure you're sitting somewhere where she can Struggle, But she can't get her Feet or Hands on anything to use as Leverage.
Keep Reassuring her You Love her, You you are Hugging her Because She Needs to get herself Calm & In control, You don't want to Her to Hurt herself, & hurting Anyone or Anything you know Does end up with her Hurting, That the More she Relaxes & Calms down, the Lighter the Hug will be, but the More she Fights it, the Tighter You will Hug her. That She is in Control, that the calmer she get's the less she Fights, the Lighter the Touch, but the More she struggles, the Tighter the Hug will get again. Also ask her if she is able to use her words & tell you what is going on, why & How of her Feelings. Validate whatever she tells you as long as it's Not Abusive. If she says she Won't tell her she doesn't have to, but You would like her to. Keep Reaffirming that You Love her no matter what.
DO NOT LET GO until she has managed to fully calm herself.
Try to get her to talk to you about it after it is all Done. Keep Calm, Steady, & in control of yourself. You Can't Help her if You're Not All "There". Keep Reassuring her that You Love her. & It is NOT wrong after to let her Know that Sometimes You are scared for Her, as well as Really Sad for her.
Also just so you are aware, She may very well Be completely Not In control of Any part of herself, Brain, Body, Emotions or anything else until she has been off those Pain Meds for Upwards of a Week. After being off the Meds she may go right back to the way You are used to her being.
I Had to do this For My Little Cousin today, He's 6, & over 50lbs. And from the sound of it, I was the First one to Bear/Anaconda Hug him. He even Thanked me for it after. My Mom "Knows" I have done this many many times with My Son, But she had Never seen me actually DO It before today. I Love My Little Cousin's VERY Much & when they are with me they are treated, the EXACT Same as My Own Kids. & In-fact they are Much to me as My Step-Son was, which is No Different than My Own Children, only I have No say in what Ultimately happens to them, or when They are/aren't In My Life.
A Good Chiropractor can Help too, But avoid those that use the Jerky Movements, Twists & Other contortions directly to the Body, particularly to the Head/neck. They can do some serious & Permanent damage VERY easy. & With a SPD kid, it is Highly likely it would be too Much Touch, & yet not enough. Which leads to another Potential Aid, a Masseuse(Massage person). But you'll need the Same one every time, & to work up in 5 minute increments to a half hour to an hour, doing the same movements every time, in the same pattern, just adding New ones as the time get's longer. I have also heard of Good Success with Proper Acupressure/Acupuncture, but again you need the Same person every time. & If they can do it in the same Room with everything the same, even the Music & Lights every time it may help even more.