Screaming!!

At Patoula's 2 month check-up, my doctor told us that we should start to let her cry a bit. When weasked how long, she said pretty much as long as we can stand..and we can start slow if we'd like. How do ya'll feel about it? When did you start letting your babies CIO? Andhow did it work?   TY!

we let our baby cry pretty much right away.  we heard an excellent speaker before she was born with years of experience, and they told us that crying was exercise for a new born. (not every time, but if you know they're fed, and diaper changed they may need to cry)  by 6-7 weeks she was sleeping through the night solid, and now at 6 months, she goes down at 7 and wakes up at 7.  It's SO hard to do, but you're not hurting them.  I think if you can give them 10 -15 minutes at a time, go in and check on them, then leave, it will get better.  You'll have to go through this at some point..  our philosophy was sooner than later would be better. Now she hardly cries at all.  

I waited until my daughter was 4-5mo old before I would let her CIO. I don't think its right to make a newborn cry until he/she falls asleep. IMO they don't know how to self-soothe yet.

Well I have a question...my daughter has started to suck on her hand when she's upset..is that self-soothing?  

I didnt start letting Gabe CIO until he was about 4-5 months old. I felt that at that point he knew that we werent abandoning him. We would put him in his crib and wait about 10 minutes and if he was still crying we would check on him and if he wasnt looking tired we would take him out to play, but if he looked tired we would give him another 10 and he was usually asleep. Now he doesnt like sleeping anywhere but his crib! When he was just playing and crying because he wanted to be picked up we would just talk to him and play with himinstead of picking him up. Of course now that he is mobile he never wants to be held 

TY ladies!!   And I'm moving this to the D&D so I can get more opinions!!I accidentally posted it here!!

Quoting ♥Fabulous♥:“ At Patoula's 2 month check-up, my doctor told us that we should start to let her cry a bit. When weasked ... [snip!] ... can start slow if we'd like. How do ya'll feel about it? When did you start letting your babies CIO? Andhow did it work?   TY!”

I wouldn't do it. Babies this young don't have wants, they have needs. One of those needs is to feel protected and secure. A 2 month old cannot comprehend why she's being left alone to cry. Meet her needs now, and she'll be a more secure sleeper later.

Quoting WhitneyR:“ we let our baby cry pretty much right away. we heard an excellent speaker before she was born with years ... [snip!] ... have to go through this at some point.. our philosophy was sooner than later would be better. Now she hardly cries at all. ”

ive never been able to do it.. so my daughter is 13 months and STILL wont sleep through the night.. we live with my in laws so theyll go in there and get her as soon as she makes a noise no matter what i say. I CANT STAND IT! they went on vacation for 2wks and i had her going to sleep by 9 every night and sleeping through the night but as soon as they came back, she was back to waking up 3 times a night and going to sleep AFTER MIDNIGHT. me and my husband are looking for an apartment now, i cant wait.. i refuse to let that go on any longer.. plus they give her soda and juice and crap before bed no matter what me and my husband say.. they have no respect

I don't believe in CIO.  I do believe when they are toddlers and throwing fits to let them be, but not as infants.  That is my personal opinion.  HOWEVER, if you are getting frustrated trying to calm her or something, I believe taking five minutes to leave her in a safe place while you gather yourself is fine.  It's better for the baby that way.  I luckily have not yet reached that point, but I've been near it.  

IMO when babies have to CIO too early, they only stop crying because they learn it doesn't get them what they need.  They become clingier toddlers and children.  As infants, meet their needs.  Even if it is a cuddle.  

Quoting Megan♥ baby Lydia:“ I don't believe in CIO.  I do believe when they are toddlers and throwing fits to let them be, but not ... [snip!] ... get them what they need.  They become clingier toddlers and children.  As infants, meet their needs.  Even if it is a cuddle.  ”

I also wanted to add, that I do make Lydia take a nap or go to bed when I KNOW she is tired and she fights it.  I hold her and let her scream (if she's done nursing and still awake) until she goes to sleep. But, I am holding her.  She would play if I let her, but if she's tired (visibly, not just because I want her to be) I make her go to sleep.  

Quoting Megan♥ baby Lydia:“ I don't believe in CIO. I do believe when they are toddlers and throwing fits to let them be, but not ... [snip!] ... get them what they need. They become clingier toddlers and children. As infants, meet their needs. Even if it is a cuddle. ”

I totally agree 100%

We started letting Caleb cry a few weeks ago. We only let him cry for 10 min and then get him. A lot of times when we put him down at night for bed he starts crying and within that 10 min he stops and falls asleep. He has definitely learned how to self soothe too, he is starting to suck his fist and thumb. He will be 3 months on the 22nd.

Quoting *Caleb's Mommy*:“ We started letting Caleb cry a few weeks ago. We only let him cry for 10 min and then get him. A lot ... [snip!] ... He has definitely learned how to self soothe too, he is starting to suck his fist and thumb. He will be 3 months on the 22nd.”

Also, adding to this... it all depends on the type of cry. By now you prolly know her different cries. Soemtimes I don't let him cry the whole 10 min because by 5 min he is angry. then I know that something is wrong or he needs something. I know when he is just fussing and is fighting sleep.

Sucking her hand when she is upset is probably self soothing.  

If you want to do CIO, don't let her cry for more than five or ten minutes.  It will teach her that you aren't there for her and that is absolutely not what you want to teach her.

I believe in AP and so we don't ever put Lydia down to fall asleep on her own.  The only time she has ever fallen asleep out of our arms is in the car and when she is playing on the floor and just conks out.  We gentle her to sleep and then put her in her crib.  If she wakes, we rock her.  That's just how we do it, though.  The only reason we don't bedshare is because she prefers sleeping in her crib.  She does better there.  I don't know why, but she doesn't wake up much in the crib and wakes all night in our bed.  When she has a problem sleeping, though she is in our bed.  That's what works for us.

The important thing is that you do what feels right to you and that you make sure she knows you are there for her if she needs you.  The first year is all about trust vs. mistrust and she needs to learn to trust you.  So, don't let her cry more than ten minutes or else she'll learn to mistrust.

Quoting Megan♥ baby Lydia:“ I don't believe in CIO. I do believe when they are toddlers and throwing fits to let them be, but not ... [snip!] ... get them what they need. They become clingier toddlers and children. As infants, meet their needs. Even if it is a cuddle. ”

Totally agree. I did a version of attachment parenting when both of my girls were babies. They slept in our bed until around 1 year. They are 2.5 and 4.5 now, and are extrememly independent and secure sleepers.